The Inner Workings of a Chibi.

Nov 03

gonegonegoneoops asked:

Awwww!  She sounds adorable  <3  It’s fine if you don’t know what you are sexually, sexuality is very fluid and I feel like it can change over time.  In the beginning I considered myself straight, then lesbian when I met my wifey, but I still find men attractive too.  Though too many people do the whole, “You’re bi but you’re with a woman that makes no sense,” or, “Bi just means you’re confused/greedy,” and I don’t feel like explaining myself to them.  But I’ll explain it here because SLEEPOVER TIME WHOO!

Yes I’m with a woman, but it’s o.k. if I still find men attractive, she still finds some men attractive, too.  People are just attractive, you know?  People are cute, and hot, and gorgeous, and sexy, all sorts of people in a variety of ways.  There’s physical attraction, and there’s being attracted to someone because of their personality, just… kyah people are wonderful  <3  

Here’s an example of tastes changing over time.  One thing that kills me is when men and women wear each other’s clothing.  Like a lady in a tie or a suit or something is just <3  And a man in heels or lingerie is just <3  And this is way, way different then my tastes from years ago.  This is pretty recent, actually.  Years ago I probably would’ve looked at a guy in heels and been like, “Why?”  Now I’m like, “Hnnnn shit damn fuck~”  Or even, years ago, I thought asexual meant like, bland people who were just incapable of affection, now I’m like, it’s just another sexual preference and it can be just as sweet and romantic as anything else.  

So yeah.  Sexuality.  It’s a wonderful thing.  There’s so many levels to it that there’s no point stressing over what you are.  

As for your lady, I hope things work out!  Coming out to a crush is difficult, but especially if it’s the same sex if said person isn’t sure what their preferences are.  Like, had a girl told me she liked me back when I was in high school I probably would’ve said no, because I considered myself straight.  Or, I’d at the very least had been confused and unsure of what to do.  All of my friends had boyfriends so I thought that was the thing to do, and no one really talked about things like being gay and stuff.  

On top of that, even now, there aren’t that many black examples of gay people.  There are some, like the basketball player who came out which, good for him, and Wanda Sykes, things like that.  It’s not to the “L Word/Queer as Folk/Will and Grace/The New Normal level, which was a predominantly white cast, but it’s better than what I had as a teenager.  When I was growing up the major, major examples I had were super flamboyant hairstylist.  That was about it.  It’s getting better now, slowly, but growing up it was that character you laughed at, it wasn’t ever a serious relationship example.  

Honestly though, back then I thought I’d get married to some great guy and have kids someday.  Then, in college, I met my wifey pretty quickly and it was like BAM you like girls.

I applaud you for saying something, though.  When I found out I liked a girl I avoided her for a while  >.<

Nov 02

jalicianicole-blog asked: Ooh ooh does asking you for a funny hair story, like you mentioned in the last ask, count as a curious question from the sleepover thingy because if it does, waw I am all ears you cutie you! P.S. You and your wonderful lady are so cutie and precious and I just think you're both amazing! *hugs*

Oh lord we have so many stories.  Just, explaining things about my hair is fun.  Like, relaxing it, for example.  How it makes my hair straight.  How the night before I can’t scratch my head.  How like, two jars need to be used because my hair may look short because it’s naturally poofy, but when it’s straightened it’s just… really long, lol!

The funnier stories are with food.  When she use to visit me in college, there was one time when I wanted macaroni and cheese.  So we went to the grocery store and she went for the Kraft blue box?  I was like, “Oh no, no no no, no.  Put that down.”  Because in college the place I stayed was a really nice dorm set up that was more like an apartment, so I had a full kitchen with an over and stuff.  But like, it shocked me that she had no idea about, you know, soul food mac and cheese?  I thought EVERYONE did.  You know, cheeses, butter, eggs, milk, baking it, I thought everyone knew!  But she didn’t.  So I made it for her.

Haven’t stopped making it since  :)

Anonymous asked: hi! sleepover! I'm 25 and never had one irl >.> But um my crush is an Vietnamese boy from Australia. And he is funny and loves the same video games and animes as I do and when he smiles I get butterflies - how corny. He likes me too but black girls in interracial relationships seem to get lots of hate so we both wonder how that will go if we are ever together. There that's it. :P

I’m in an interracial relationship, actually!  I’m black and my wifey is white.  It’s best not to worry about what other people will say and just do what you want.  The love is what matters  <3  I do understand your concern, it’s something I thought about too.  I grew up in Chicago which was like, 99.9% black, so when I met this white girl and fell for her there was a part of me like, “OMG this is a girl AND she’s white omg omg omg.”  But it’s been great  <3  And honestly, the people who could possibly give us hate aren’t people I’m concerned with.  My friends and family love her, because they got to know her, and that’s what’s key to me.  Don’t hate until you know the person  :)

Actually it’s really fun, as odd as that sounds, because we both have different backgrounds and different stories.  Even over simple things, like hair.  Don’t get me started about hair.  Like, my hair is so different, SO DIFFERENT, and I have so many stories and she’s like, “… uuuuurm…" 

Anonymous asked: My maters pick me up after work and tonight I almost got in the wrong car. My coworkers saw. I'm such an idiot. How do I get past this embarrassment?

Oh man I’ve done that, don’t sweat it anon.  I’ve been walking through the parking lot with my wifey and walked to the wrong car with her by my side, because I tend to go by color?  So now she’ll be like, “Just find Riku by looking for the rainbow ass,” because her car is named Riku (yes after Kingdom Hearts) and she’s got a rainbow sticker on the back  ^^

Anonymous asked: eee sleepover! first off you and your wifey are SO cute omg. so my crush is my wonderfully funny and smart boyfriend except he has a lot of insecurities mostly resulting from an emotionally abusive past relationship but we're working on it! i love him and wouldn't give him up no matter how difficult his problems get

O.K.  I actually have a weakness for freckles, I love them <3  It sounds like you’re a good match for your boyfriend, since you seem to understand his insecurities and are willing to work with him.  So good for you, anon!  

xanatenshi said: I dare you to do a shot of ketchup mixed with mustard! ;) (Or horseradish sauce…that’s even better!)

I actually only have ketchup, lol!

xanatenshi asked: Sleepover Time! Truth or Dare?!

Hmmmmmmm DARE!

Anonymous asked: sleepover time! ok so my crush is this rlly boy named Juan who is a fraternal triplet w/ 2 sisters (which is kinda intimidating but also awesome) & he's got a great ass and is super nice & into the same kinfda shit i'm into plus he's got a great beard and did i mention his phenomenal ass? anyway do you have a crush?

Holy cow, a triplet with two sister, jeez!  But he sounds really awesome, anon  :)  My crush would be on my wifey, of course  <3  12 years and still going!  Eee I hope she has a crush on me, too  ^^

softlysam:

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