brichibiwritesthings:

snowtigra:

(Ok, this is serious guys and I felt the need to write something with all of the court cases going on right now.  I need to write this down, so to speak.)

My marriage doesn’t cheapen yours.  My marriage doesn’t affect yours.  In fact, I’ll be frank, my marriage has nothing to do with you.

 My marriage has to do with her.  The woman I love, who I’ve loved for over 10 years.  We’ve been through a lot of crap and we have come out happier and closer than I ever thought possible.  Marriage would be about giving her something that society has taught all women to dream of from the moment we could walk and try on frilly fancy dresses.  But it’s more than that.

 Beyond the desire to walk down an isle in a beautiful white dress, it’s the commitment.  I want to give her a ring, I want to sign the certificate and I want the physical moment of marrying her in front of family and friends.  I want to stand up in front of a room and state in terms that everyone is familiar with that I love this woman and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I want to give that moment to her, her family, her parents, my parents and everyone else around us who’s supported us along the way. 

 Things like taxes, and ownership and legality and such are secondary.  It’s the commitment that is important and I’m pretty sure that - still - none of this has anything to do with the people who say we can’t get married. Marriage is about the commitment between me and her and nothing else.

 So, based on that, why can’t I just marry her now without legal crap?  I mean, technically, we’re planning on having a hand fasting anyway - a Pagan marriage - so why do I even need to have the government’s blessings?  That’s what you’re thinking right?

 Marriage is important, because at its base, it’s the promise to the world that you will care, love and take care of this person in front of you.  I know society has changed and even I’m asking for marriage to change, but at the core, the meaning is still the same.  I want to marry her and swear that I will take care of her.  And in that same vein I don’t want to cheapen my promise in a fake ceremony or something that’s incomplete, because to me it feels like I’m lying.  If the marriage is fake and not recognized, then that just hands haters a way to say ‘you don’t love her, because you can’t give her what she’s supposed to have: a man.’

 I could write all day and make all sorts of anthropological arguments, pro equality arguments and everything else, but I’m not going to.  It’s about that, and at the same time it isn’t.

 The right to marriage is important to me, because I want to give it to her.  It’s important to us.  Because marriage is about the couple, it’s their day.  It would be our day.  Not yours.  It doesn’t affect your day. 

It is our day. We should be able to have that day too.

Uh…

I’m just gonna reblog this and go cry somewhere.  My partner wrote this for me.  I had no idea she was writing this.  I’m just going to marvel over the fact that someone wants to have this with me, you know, since I’m a huge spaz and flail over everything, like, OMG PUPPIES FLAIL!  

But really, all joking aside, this is why this is so important to us.  And it has nothing to do with anyone else but us.  In no way does it cheapen anyone else’s marriage, hell, the only people who will see us get married are the people who love us, so I fail to see how that has anything to do with anyone outside my circle.  

So… yeah I have no more words, she got it all down.

I <3 you snowtigra :)

Oh and good morning to all the new followers of the writing blog.  Um… here, have a wonderfully written letter about equality that’s not written by me but is written to me :)

Reblogging because there’s a lady in love with me  :)