cunicular:

Your first time is NOT supposed to hurt

You are NOT supposed to bleed

If you bleed, that is NOT your hymen being ‘popped’, it is a tear due to lack of sexual arousal and natural lubrication.

This is all a MYTH perpetrated by men so they don’t have to make sure you are comfortable and sufficiently aroused enough before you have sex with them. It is an excuse to disregard and hurt you.

I just really want women to know this.

Wow.  I actually didn’t know this.  I grew up thinking that it would absolutely hurt like hell.  Although, it was told to me in a, “Don’t rush out and have sex at a young age because he’s not going to know what he’s doing and it’ll hurt like hell,” sort of way by my mom because that’s how it was for her so… wow yeah.