Awwww!  She sounds adorable  <3  It’s fine if you don’t know what you are sexually, sexuality is very fluid and I feel like it can change over time.  In the beginning I considered myself straight, then lesbian when I met my wifey, but I still find men attractive too.  Though too many people do the whole, “You’re bi but you’re with a woman that makes no sense,” or, “Bi just means you’re confused/greedy,” and I don’t feel like explaining myself to them.  But I’ll explain it here because SLEEPOVER TIME WHOO!

Yes I’m with a woman, but it’s o.k. if I still find men attractive, she still finds some men attractive, too.  People are just attractive, you know?  People are cute, and hot, and gorgeous, and sexy, all sorts of people in a variety of ways.  There’s physical attraction, and there’s being attracted to someone because of their personality, just… kyah people are wonderful  <3  

Here’s an example of tastes changing over time.  One thing that kills me is when men and women wear each other’s clothing.  Like a lady in a tie or a suit or something is just <3  And a man in heels or lingerie is just <3  And this is way, way different then my tastes from years ago.  This is pretty recent, actually.  Years ago I probably would’ve looked at a guy in heels and been like, “Why?”  Now I’m like, “Hnnnn shit damn fuck~”  Or even, years ago, I thought asexual meant like, bland people who were just incapable of affection, now I’m like, it’s just another sexual preference and it can be just as sweet and romantic as anything else.  

So yeah.  Sexuality.  It’s a wonderful thing.  There’s so many levels to it that there’s no point stressing over what you are.  

As for your lady, I hope things work out!  Coming out to a crush is difficult, but especially if it’s the same sex if said person isn’t sure what their preferences are.  Like, had a girl told me she liked me back when I was in high school I probably would’ve said no, because I considered myself straight.  Or, I’d at the very least had been confused and unsure of what to do.  All of my friends had boyfriends so I thought that was the thing to do, and no one really talked about things like being gay and stuff.  

On top of that, even now, there aren’t that many black examples of gay people.  There are some, like the basketball player who came out which, good for him, and Wanda Sykes, things like that.  It’s not to the “L Word/Queer as Folk/Will and Grace/The New Normal level, which was a predominantly white cast, but it’s better than what I had as a teenager.  When I was growing up the major, major examples I had were super flamboyant hairstylist.  That was about it.  It’s getting better now, slowly, but growing up it was that character you laughed at, it wasn’t ever a serious relationship example.  

Honestly though, back then I thought I’d get married to some great guy and have kids someday.  Then, in college, I met my wifey pretty quickly and it was like BAM you like girls.

I applaud you for saying something, though.  When I found out I liked a girl I avoided her for a while  >.<