I’ve actually never heard that before.  The only time someone ever told me I needed dick was when I was coming out, because, “how would you know you’ve never slept with a man.”  And just, why doesn’t anyone ever say, “How would you know you’ve never slept with a woman.”

But anyhow.

I don’t think anyone actually “needs” penis.  They might “want” it though.  Which,  honestly, I always think of sexuality as being fluid and preferences can change.  Like I love my wifey to pieces, she knows this, but I also find men attractive still.  Not enough to like, be like, “OMG LET’S HAVE A THREESOME RIGHT NOW,” or anything like that, but the attraction is there.  And she gets it, and sometimes, there’s a man who she will show me a picture of and we’ll both be like, “Dayum.”  Now there’s other lesbians I know who are just absolutely, 100%, not attracted to men at all in no way whatsoever.  Like they think they’re fine people, they don’t hate them (because I feel the need to say that because some folks still think that lesbian = hating men), they’re just not attracted to them.  Which is fine.

At its core though I find myself disliking that statement because I hate when people link sex to someone’s emotional state, like, “You’re such a bitch you’d calm down if you got some,” I just hate that like I’m not pissed off because I need to have sex I’ve been with the same woman for 12 years I have an active sex life my attitude is not from lack of sex.  And no my emotional state is certainly not over not getting some from a man.  I feel like that’s how that statement is used the most, like, penis = the calming agent a woman needs, no matter what her sexual preference is.  No, my calming agent would be if you stopped being an asshole.

Interesting question, anon  :)