obsol33t:

This is me. This is my body. This is my insecurities.

I am five foot and five inches tall, I weigh 177lbs, and this took a lot of balls to post.

I’m kinda chubby, I have a muffin top, I’m riddled in stretch marks, I have a bit of a double chin, acne on my chest, and I have rolls in weird spots on my body.

This doesn’t make me any less of a person.

Every time I go to family gatherings, all I hear is “Oh, you’ve put on so much weight!” Or “Wow, you need to do something about those stretch marks!”

Like, how could you even say that to someone?

Let me tell you a thing.

It’s a vicious fucking cycle.

You gain/lose weight/have more breakouts than usual, family points it out, you get sad, it gets worse.

If someone has put on some weight, DONT MENTION IT.

If someone looks a little too thin, DONT MENTION IT.

If someone has body hair in places you’re not used to seeing it, DONT MENTION IT.

If someone has acne, DONT MENTION IT.

If someone has stretch marks, DONT MENTION IT.

If someone has crooked teeth, DONT MENTION IT.

TRUST ME. WE ARE ALL FULLY FUCKING AWARE OF OUR FLAWS.

So instead of calling them out on something “wrong” with their body and completely shredding any ounce of confidence they had managed to muster up that day, just find something nice about the person and compliment them.

You do so much more good saying “that’s a cute dress” than saying “you need to lose/gain a little weight.”

Just try it sometime. You might actually sleep better at night.

Bless this woman  <3