Mom: Don’t you want kids one day?
Me: No.
Coworker: You need one.
Me: No.
Mom: You know you’d like a little girl.
Me: I hate kids, so no.
Coworker: Now you’ll have one in 9 months just for saying that.
Me: Not likely, but if I make a surprise trip to Vegas you’ll know why.
Mom: -gasp accompanied by a disgusted look-
And that is why you don’t talk about pregnancy with a girl with no maternal instinct and a vocalized desire (on several occasions) to remain childless.
Reblogging because this has happened to me. My partner and I don’t really want kids. We’re fine with our cats and someday we’ll have a puppy (once we have a bigger house). But I remember, when the marriage amendment went through here in MN, I was at my dad’s house in Chicago and some family came over. My cousin was like, “Now you guys can get married! So when are you going to have a baby?”
We were like, “Uh… no.” And just… there was this surprised look of, “What really? You don’t want kids?” O.K. first of all we just found out we can get married (which, btw, no we’re not getting married tomorrow we’re going to plan it out) the next step isn’t always, “NOW TIME FOR BABY!” Neither of us are really interested. We’re too busy enjoying each other, and our house, and trying to make this writing thing and craft thing take off. But back at my dad’s place, I have friends and family in my age group who have kids so I get the, “So when is it your turn,” look. I think every single female cousin I have except for one has a kid, or two, or four. And when I’m like, “Uuuuuuh no,” there’s this look. Like. I’m doing something wrong.
You should never, ever have kids because someone else wants you to, which is why I’m reblogging this. If you don’t feel like you want kids, then you don’t want kids, period. There’s nothing wrong with that. If anything it’s a mature decision, because you could be like, “Weeeeell maybe I do want kids I should get on that!” Which would make you miserable which would, in turn, make the child miserable.
Having a child is not the thing you absolutely have to do, so stop with the, “You really do want one you just don’t realize it, now you’ll get pregnant because you said no, I can see you with this this and this,” just… stop. If someone wants to have a baby, I believe that they know it in their heart, but if that feeling isn’t there then just leave it alone.
