katzcriss:

when you wanna talk about the thing but you can’t talk about the thing because you know people will roll their eyes and be like ‘oh great she’s talking about the thing again’ so you just kind of sit there and pout because you want to talk about the thing so badly but you know if you try you’ll just get shit for it

Truth! Here’s some food for thought in all aspects that affect me on a daily basis. Please feel free to add your own experiences.

When a person of color opens up about racism they know that they’ll have to deal with someone who groans, rolls their eyes, and tells them to not blow things out of proportion. They know that killers will walk away because “we don’t know the full story” or “they have a mental illness” – which paints a horrible picture for those with mental illnesses – or "they acted in the heat of the moment.” Meanwhile, victims will be blamed because thugs/threats/suspicious/ran/didn’t listen. They know this while, at they same time, they live in a world that claims to want racial equality.

When a woman opens up about being assaulted they know that they’ll have to deal with someone who asks, “What were you wearing? Were you drunk? Did you lead them on?” “Why didn’t you defend yourself?” When she opens up about feeling uncomfortable she knows that someone will call her a bitch because “it was a compliment” or “you’re too sensitive.” While, at the same time, she lives in a world that claims to want women to feel safe at all times.

When someone who isn’t “the norm” when it comes to sexuality opens up about their rights, they know they’ll have to deal with someone who “doesn’t mind gay people, but they shouldn’t get married” or someone who “doesn’t mind transsexuals, but don’t go into our bathroom” or someone who “doesn’t believe that asexuality is real” or “bisexuals are confused” and so on… while, at the same time, they live in a world that claims to want LGBT rights.

When someone who isn’t the “ideal body” opens up about wanting to be seen beyond their weight, they know that they’ll have to deal with someone who calls them out of their name, who suddenly knows their health history, who assumes they aren’t happy or can’t be happy, who decides who they are because of the size of their body – fat or skinny. This is all while living in a world that claims that everyone can live their lives how they are most comfortable. This is all while living in a world that can’t decide what the “ideal body” is.

All of these people know these things, so a lot of times, they sit and want to speak up, but don’t, because there’s always someone who shoots them down.

So don’t be the one who shoots them down. Be the one who listens. Or, more importantly, when someone does shoot them down, be there to support them.

word-vommit96:

tiger-in-the-flightdeck:

My baby brother’s first girlfriend recently confessed to thinking they were actually a boy. I asked my brother if this bothered him. His response was:

“Well, yeah. If I had have known they were a boy when we were going out, I would have said I had a boyfriend, not a girlfriend.”

He was ten.

he’s doing it right

;__;  this is amazing.  

sonofagorgon:

m-trollacicconesboobs:

batmandracula:

A straight, white woman, from a middle class family, whos good looking. It must be real hard being you Madonna.

yeah! because Madonna has had the EAAASIEST live of them all right?? some of the funniest parts where things like when her mother died when she was 6 and she had to take care of her younger siblings! (dreamy right?) or  when she moved to new york and didn’t have enough money to buy food! (right? sounds INCREDIBLE!) and when she was raped by a guy at knifepoint??? OMG HOW FUNNY is to see your best friends die of AIDS and see  how everybody says they deserve it because they are gay! (hillarious!) and specially when her then husband Sean Penn abused her for several months that concluded with her 8h bound to a chair raped and beaten by a baseball bat! then  OMG the media has always been so kind to her! (they never called her slut, bitch…) and let’s not forget her 2 miscarriages in a period of 4 years!(OMG how does she dare complain?)without forgetting that every day she wakes up to Little monsters sending her death treats and reminding her that she is old and should die (SWEET!) 

But the thing that irks me the most is that this bitch has done nothing to deserve what she has, because she hasn’t worked hard in her entire life, I mean only 600 hours of rehersal for her last tour SHAME ON YOU, and obviously it’s AMAZING to see how the media dimisnishes your talent and accomplishments in a 30 years+ period by calling you talentless ( I mean she only writes and coproduces all her songs, WHAT A DUMB BITCH) and most of all her lack of compromise with the LGBTQAI community, that lead to criticism from all the conservative groups even nowadays! because she hasn’t built herself as a person at all.

the conclusion is you don’t have the right to complain if you are not from a minority right?

#how to sit someone down: a guide

This this this this this THIS THIS THIS!  Like o.k., I get if you want to be all supportive of minority groups.  That’s awesome, o.k.?  Keep doing that.  However, I’ve said it like a thousand times and I’ll keep saying it, the way to support us is NOT BY BASHING ANOTHER GROUP!  Do NOT bash white people, or straight people, or men, or anything.  Anything. ANYTHING!  DO NOT BASH THEM AND DO NOT MAKE ASSUMPTIONS OF THEIR LIVES BEING EASY because they aren’t minorities.    

Now is white privilege and male privilege things like that exist?  Yes.  But that does not give you the right to tell these people, “Pfft your life is soooooo easy,” because you don’t know them personally.  I have a lot of great white friends, straight friends, male friends, skinny friends, they are amazing people I would never, NEVER go to them and say, “You don’t know what it’s like to be black/lesbian/female/plus sized,” just… no.  That is COUNTER-PRODUCTIVE TO YOUR CAUSE!  They are my friends because they love me for me and when someone is racist, or sexist, or homophobic, or fat bashing, or whatever THEY ARE THERE FOR ME.  I am NOT going to be like, “Get out of here you don’t understand because it’ll never happen to you!”  

I mean fuck my partner is a white girl, jesus!  Should I hate her because she “will never understand what it’s like to be a black woman,” I mean… just… stop being supportive by bashing others, that’s not support that’s anger.  

discriminateagainstwhitepeople:

cosmic-kleptomaniac:

dismantlethefeminism:

I do not understand this “male privilege" bullshit.

What. Fucking. Privileges. Do. Men. Have.???????

Name them. I swear, I challenge you to name these “male privileges" and be able to prove them. 

Come on, I fucking dare you. 

Name them!

Oh boy. Well, as a man, I’ll tell you my male privilege.

1. My odds of being hired for a job, when competing against female applicants, are probably skewed in my favor. The more prestigious the job, the larger the odds are skewed.
2. I can be confident in the fact that my co-workers won’t think that I was hired/promoted because of my sex - despite the fact that it’s probably true.
3. If I ever am promoted when a woman of my peers is better suited for the job, it is because of my sex.
4. If i ever fail at my job or career, it won’t be seen as a blacklist against my sex’s capabilities.
5. I am far less likely to face sexual harassment than my female peers.
6. If I do the same task as a woman, and if the measurement is at all subjective, chances are people will think I did a better job.
7. If I am a teen or an adult, and I stay out of prison, my odds of getting raped are relatively low.
8. On average, I’m taught that walking alone after dark by myself is less than dangerous than it is for my female peers.
9. If I choose not to have children, my masculinity will not be questioned.
10. If I do have children but I do not provide primary care for them, my masculinity will not be questioned.
11. If I have children and I do care for them, I’ll be praised even if my care is only marginally competent.
12. If I have children and a career, no one will think I’m selfish for not staying at home.
13. If I seek political office, my relationship with my children or who I deem to take care of them will more often not be scrutinized by the press.
14. My elected representatives are mostly people of my own sex. The more prestigious the position, the more this is true.
15. When i seek out “the person in charge", it is likely that they will be someone of my own sex. The higher the position, the more often this is true.
16. As a child, chances are I am encouraged to be more active and outgoing than my sisters.
17. As a child, I could choose from an almost infinite variety of children’s media featuring positive, active, non-stereotyped heroes of my own sex. I never had to look for it; male protagonists were (and are) the default.
18. As a child, chances are I got more teacher attention than girls who raised their hands just as often.
19. If my day, week or year is going badly, I need not ask of each negative episode or situation whether or not it has sexist overtones. (Nobody’s going to ask if I’m upset because I’m menstruating.)
20. I can turn on the television or glance at the front page of the newspaper and see people of my own sex widely represented.
21. If I’m careless with my financial affairs it won’t be attributed to my sex.
22. If I’m careless with my driving it won’t be attributed to my sex.
23. I can speak in public to a large group without putting my sex on trial.
24. Even if I sleep with a lot of women, there is little to no chance that I will be seriously labeled a “slut,” nor is there any male counterpart to “slut-bashing.”
25. I do not have to worry about the message my wardrobe sends about my sexual availability.
26. My clothing is typically less expensive and better-constructed than women’s clothing for the same social status. While I have fewer options, my clothes will probably fit better than a woman’s without tailoring.
27. The grooming regimen expected of me is relatively cheap and consumes little time.
28. If I buy a new car, chances are I’ll be offered a better price than a woman buying the same car. The same goes for other expensive merchandise.
29. If I’m not conventionally attractive, the disadvantages are relatively small and easy to ignore.
30. I can be loud with no fear of being called a shrew. I can be aggressive with no fear of being called a bitch.
31. I can ask for legal protection from violence that happens mostly to men without being seen as a selfish special interest, since that kind of violence is called “crime” and is a general social concern. (Violence that happens mostly to women is usually called “domestic violence” or “acquaintance rape,” and is seen as a special interest issue.)
32. I can be confident that the ordinary language of day-to-day existence will always include my sex. “All men are created equal,” mailman, chairman, freshman, he.
33. My ability to make important decisions and my capability in general will never be questioned depending on what time of the month it is.
34. I will never be expected to change my name upon marriage or questioned if I don’t change my name.
35. The decision to hire me will not be based on assumptions about whether or not I might choose to have a family sometime soon.
36. Every major religion in the world is led primarily by people of my own sex. Even God, in most major religions, is pictured as male.
37. Most major religions argue that I should be the head of my household, while my wife and children should be subservient to me.
38. If I have a wife or live-in girlfriend, chances are we’ll divide up household chores so that she does most of the labor, and in particular the most repetitive and unrewarding tasks.
39. If I have children with my girlfriend or wife, I can expect her to do most of the basic childcare such as changing diapers and feeding.
40. If I have children with my wife or girlfriend, and it turns out that one of us needs to make career sacrifices to raise the kids, chances are we’ll both assume the career sacrificed should be hers.
41. Assuming I am heterosexual, magazines, billboards, television, movies, pornography, and virtually all of media is filled with images of scantily-clad women intended to appeal to me sexually. Such images of men exist, but are rarer.
42. In general, I am under much less pressure to be thin than my female counterparts are. If I am over-weight, I probably suffer fewer social and economic consequences for being fat than over-weight women do.
43.  If I am heterosexual, it’s incredibly unlikely that I’ll ever be beaten up by a spouse or lover.
44. Complete strangers generally do not walk up to me on the street and tell me to “smile.”
45. Sexual harassment on the street virtually never happens to me. I do not need to plot my movements through public space in order to avoid being sexually harassed, or to mitigate sexual harassment.
46. On average, I am not interrupted by women as often as women are interrupted by men.
47. On average, I will have the privilege of not knowing about my male privilege.

And lastly, I am taken as a more credible feminist than my female peers, despite the fact that the feminist movement is not liberating to my sex.

This is male privilege.

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While I love the entire list, I think number 47 is the one I love the most, because it’s true.  I feel like as a black plus sized woman I’m immediately told what obstacles are in my way, by family, friends, society, everyone.  And while my loved ones will encourage me to be me, as a kid I already knew that there would be things in my way.

Interestingly enough, I knew it was mostly because of my race.  I think that’s what happens when you’re black.  There’s nothing wrong with that, there’s nothing wrong with your family talking to you about race and how people may look at you and assume things.  But honestly, I didn’t have a clear picture of female obstacles until college.  I remember when I decided to take Women’s Studies the response wasn’t, “Oh that’s cool,” and it wasn’t even, “Ugh you’re just going to hate men,” it was, “Why aren’t you taking African American Studies?”  It’s not that I don’t think it’s important, but I had spent 18 years learning about African American things.  I grew up in Chicago, it was all around me, whether it was because it was February, or because my family was talking to me, or hell because a new movie came out about it.  There’s more aspects to me than “black” and if Black History is important because of who I am, Women’s Studies should be important too.  But to some people I was betraying my race because I chose Women’s Studies.

And don’t get me started on when I took Queer Studies for a semester.  

The sad thing about things like “Queer Studies” or being plus sized is that since these are things that people feel you can change, some people tell you about the hardships of it to discourage you.  "It’s not easy being gay you’ll be this and this and this,“ or, "You should lose weight because of this and this and this.”  It’s sort of the reverse of privilege, it’s a, “Get ready for the rest of your life,” which, on the one hand, is true, but on the other hand you should remember to be positive.  Teach people to love who they are instead of trying to change it.  

And that’s why number 47 is my favorite on this list, because privilege means that you had no idea that this is what people go through.  You may be aware of racism or sexism or homophobia in a large sense, but not on this personal level, where you know immediately when you walk into a place to be on guard in case if you meet that one asshole, or when people in your own minority group are judging you over something so silly: picking college courses, not going to the get togethers because you have nothing in common with anyone there because you watch anime and write fanfiction, things like that.