I’ve been with this woman for 13 years and I’m looking forward to 13 more, and more, and more until we reach forever.  She’s my co-author, my seamstress, my partner, my everything. 

Pictures taken by our friend Lavonne Brite, who’s getting into photography and wanted to do some couple shots of us, from us being in normal clothes to showing what we normally do together, which is this lady making my cosplay and making me feel amazing  :)  You can also find my cosplay page here and my wifey’s here.  We have many new things planned this year and are excited to continue to bring our ideas to life.

south-adversary:

dottoraqn:

fadical:

people will honestly criticize lesbian weddings no matter what like if they both wear dresses then they’re “enforcing traditional gender roles” but if one of them wears a tux they’re “imitating heterosexuality” but if they both wear tuxes then they’re “proving that they’re basically men” so like what the fuck do you want us to wear lol

Nothing, cause the only way those people will accept lesbians is in a porno.

And there it is folks

*mic drop*

13 years ago I was a freshman at Iowa State University. 18 years old, it was my first time away from home, from the friends I knew, my family, and my boyfriend. Over the summer I had joined a Gundam Wing yaoi mailing list and had been making some online friends through it, so I at least had that while I was away. I was the baby of the list, the youngest one on it, since I was only 18, but we all got along well and had a lot of fun writing fics and sharing fanart of Heero Yuy and Duo Maxwell.

One day, on the list, I inadvertently started a “war” of sorts with one of the other ladies. It was all in good fun, to this day this is the only fandom I was a part of where “ship wars” weren’t terrible. We were debating who was on top: Heero or Duo, and we started a war where we all took sides and wrote fic/did fanart to “fire shots” at the other side. In the end we all won because, huzzah for more fanworks of our OTP! Anyhow, while taking sides, I was all Heero x Duo and this other lady was all Duo x Heero, and surprisingly, someone by the name of Snow Tigra took my side. It was odd because she geared more towards Duo x Heero, but she decided for a change of pace.

Neither of us knew that, 13 years later, we’d be living together, cosplaying together, writing books together, and planning a Mortal Kombat wedding.

Once Snow joined my side we started talking. It was mostly about fandom stuff, geeky things, ect. We even wrote a terrible fic where the Gundam Wing boys had to deal with the T-virus from Resident Evil (omg you haven’t lived until you write a scene of Trowa shooting a zombie dog who tries to bite Quatre) I learned about anime conventions through her, cosplay, and even about canon boy’s love series like Gravitation and such (she even burned cds of it and mailed it out to everyone on the list so we could all watch, which is how you watched anime before streaming was a thing). At some point, my boyfriend and I broke up. He stopped talking to me while I was away and I was pretty depressed. Snow sent me a white tiger to keep me company, and I actually still have her and sleep with her every night. During all this we also sent each other pictures of ourselves (through actual mail, lol, because phones that took pictures whut are the things?). I remember being really anxious and hoping that she thought I was cute, which was odd because she’s a girl, and I had had a boyfriend once upon a time. But anyway… we kept talking and one day she told me about this girl in her class that she had a crush on. And… I got jealous. Which, again, odd right? I had had a boyfriend and girls were supposed to like boys. 

Unless…

… no.

No!

So then I proceeded to ignore her for about a week. No chatting online. No emails. No nothing. Because there was no way in hell I could like a girl. That’s not the sort of thing that happened! Don’t get me wrong I had no issue with gay people, I just knew damn well that that wasn’t me. It couldn’t be. All of my friends at home either had boyfriends or were boy crazy. And forget telling my parents, I still remember to this day a conversation one of my aunts had with my dad about, “What if she were gay?” And he was like, “She’s not. No.” This was before I met Snow and during the movie “In and Out” where the guy gets called gay by one of his students who was a celebrity at the time, and he goes down the alter with his wifey and just blurts out that he is, in fact, gay. But that movie spurred on that conversation where my dad was like, “Nope, not even a possibility,” and I stuck with that mentality. No. No. No!

But after a week I started to miss her. She was sending me emails asking if I was o.k., if something had happened because I wasn’t online, and finally I just said… tell her. So I stood in my campus library and wrote this long email about how I was jealous of the girl she had a crush on, that I never had feelings like this before for a girl, and that I liked her.

Again, 13 years later, who knew?

She said it would be best if we stayed friends until we met in person, which would be at Anime Central 2002 in April, and we did try, but just… there was a connection, and we just gave up. We were dating, plain and simple. Our online conversations were our ways of communication, and it turned into roleplaying with anime characters which, oddly enough, would give birth to the book series we have going now. When we finally met at Anime Central that was it, it just added to the love we had for each other, and we knew that we’d be together for a long time.

We’ve been through a lot along the way. Learning about each other, dealing with telling our families. It didn’t go well at first. My dad and I fought during my Christmas break. Her parents flat out denied it. My mom could care less, honestly, so we at least had that going. There were many holidays with her family where I was just a roommate. My dad slowly got used to the idea and finally came around. We’ve had months of struggling financially because I moved up here after college with no job. We had to deal with me losing said job 6 years later. We’ve had to deal with losing two cats. We’ve had to deal with being broken into. There’s been a lot of hurdles, you know? But I don’t think I’ve ever met someone so determined to keep me happy. She takes on so much, and I do the same, too. We work together to make our dreams come true. These dreams have been festering over time and now we’re working together to make them happen. Writing, going to conventions, all of that. We’re a team, and I don’t think either of us imagined that we’d have so much support going into this. Cosplay was a flat out accident, honestly, I’m still in awe over the people we meet who say we’re an inspiration. But if you ever want to know how I can keep going, it’s because of her. She works her ass off doing these costumes, and she’s always encouraging the second I feel insecure. If too many negatives try to bring me down she’s always my positive. She’s everything, really.

As for her parents? They’ve turned around completely. Not only did they help us pay for our house a couple years back, but they helped us repair it and even announce us as being together when we’re over at their house and new people are coming over. My mother has met them and she even talks with Snow’s mom online. It took some time, but everything clicks now, and neither of us could be happier. 

So happy anniversary to the love of my life. 13 years and still going <3

brichibiwritesthings:

As I sit down at my desk I see a group of women standing at the cubicle across from mine.  There’s four of them, but my attention lingers on the one sitting at the desk.  Janette Peters.  She brings me back to those uncomfortable times of having crushes on people who I could never obtain.  In high school, such feelings can be dismissed with promises of it being just a phase or even the elegant lies of you’ll find someone, someday.  Such words aren’t used on the twenty-five year old female. You still don’t have someone?  What are you waiting for?  Right, of course, it’s obviously me who is procrastinating on finding a girlfriend.  At least I’m dodging the childbearing bullet, much to the dismay of my mother.

We’re out having breakfast and this snippet just happened.

I’ve actually never heard that before.  The only time someone ever told me I needed dick was when I was coming out, because, “how would you know you’ve never slept with a man.”  And just, why doesn’t anyone ever say, “How would you know you’ve never slept with a woman.”

But anyhow.

I don’t think anyone actually “needs” penis.  They might “want” it though.  Which,  honestly, I always think of sexuality as being fluid and preferences can change.  Like I love my wifey to pieces, she knows this, but I also find men attractive still.  Not enough to like, be like, “OMG LET’S HAVE A THREESOME RIGHT NOW,” or anything like that, but the attraction is there.  And she gets it, and sometimes, there’s a man who she will show me a picture of and we’ll both be like, “Dayum.”  Now there’s other lesbians I know who are just absolutely, 100%, not attracted to men at all in no way whatsoever.  Like they think they’re fine people, they don’t hate them (because I feel the need to say that because some folks still think that lesbian = hating men), they’re just not attracted to them.  Which is fine.

At its core though I find myself disliking that statement because I hate when people link sex to someone’s emotional state, like, “You’re such a bitch you’d calm down if you got some,” I just hate that like I’m not pissed off because I need to have sex I’ve been with the same woman for 12 years I have an active sex life my attitude is not from lack of sex.  And no my emotional state is certainly not over not getting some from a man.  I feel like that’s how that statement is used the most, like, penis = the calming agent a woman needs, no matter what her sexual preference is.  No, my calming agent would be if you stopped being an asshole.

Interesting question, anon  :)

DC Comics has been having a bad week. Yesterday, two members of the Batwoman editorial team quit after their publishers refused to allow Batwoman (who is a lesbian character) to marry her partner. And now the comic company has provoked even more outrage by hosting a contest in which they readers to draw Harley Quinn, a popular villain, preparing to commit suicide. Naked.

All right. Time for a rant thing.  The person I got the link from, someone commented on it with something like, “I don’t see why people are so up in arms about fictional characters when there’s more important things to worry about.”

Just because someone has an opinion about a fictional character doesn’t mean they’re suddenly forgetting about the struggles of the world. Just because I have an opinion about what DC, or Marvel, or Ubisoft, or FUNimation, or whatever other geeky (or non geeky) company does doesn’t mean that, suddenly, I’m ignoring what’s going on in the “real world.” The geek community is part of my life, so when something happens that I have an opinion about, I’m going to say something.

If people are upset (or not upset and defending) something in the community, that doesn’t mean they’re doing something wrong. You can’t want the geek community to matter then say, “Stop getting in a tizzy over fictional characters.” And, personally, I don’t always want to think about the problems of the “real world.” The geek community is my escape, my hobby, and honestly it’s becoming my career what with writing and all. Is it wrong to get defensive over things that happened here? No. Can you honestly say that you never watched something, or read something, or played something, and never reacted to it? It’s a thing that happens sometimes, and it’s fine.

Let’s be honest. Companies like DC have been in our lives for a very, very long time. So when they do something you don’t agree with, you feel kinda betrayed. “Batwoman isn’t getting married to her girlfriend,” well… why not? They’re together and in love, why not? Marvel did it. Marvel had a gay wedding. And we all know Batwoman is a lesbian with a girlfriend she loves, so why not? Why not take that step? It makes you question things, and wonder about the company. Do I, as a lesbian, feel upset that the company I’ve been into for years won’t let two girls get married? Well… yes! It’s a way they can show support, and apparently, two of their longtime writers saw that and left over it.

Same with this Harley Quinn thing. Is Harley bonkers? Sure, absolutely. And her staying with the Joker is insane. Is suicide the answer? Honestly, if she did it, I don’t think we’d be too surprised. She’s been through hell. It would suck if she did it, yes, but the Joker is so terrible and abusive (I still remember watching the animated series and how he shoved her out a window!), so if you told me that you wrote a story where she said, I’m done, I’d be sad but… I’d get it. But why naked? Why is that a requirement in this contest? And for goodness sake, why are you holding a contest when it’s National Suicide Prevention Week this coming week? When a company I love does something like that, it makes me question their intentions, you know? It’s beyond getting upset over a fictional character. Now I’m wondering, “DC what are you doing?” And that’s to be expected when you’re a fan of something. 

There’s a difference between being upset over a fictional character because, oh, they hook up with a character you don’t like, for vain reasons. “Oh no I don’t want Heero to end up with Relena because I like him with Duo because I like yaoi.” There is a huge difference between that and, “Why does your suicidal girl have to be naked in this contest,” and, “Why can’t Batwoman get married to her canon girlfriend?” That’s what people are upset about. Stuff like that hits home. Stuff like that is personal. Stuff like that is hurtful, fictional or not. We’re not getting “up in arms” over something trivial. Having a suicide drawing contest when National Suicide Prevention Week is coming up is in terrible taste. Having your lesbian heroine NOT get married to her girlfriend is a slap in the face, ESPECIALLY when Marvel was like, “Hey look gay marriage let’s do it.” So you can’t even say that no comic book company has done it before, because they have, and they did it proudly. So what’s stopping you? 

THAT is what fans get upset about. 

It’s the same with “Ender’s Game.” Is that more credible because it’s not a comic or cartoon? Because there’s a BUNCH of people not going to the movie because the author is terribly homophobic. So, to not support HIM, they’re not going to the movie. Are we getting too “up in arms” over that? This man flat out does not like gay people, so when we say, “We’re not going to the movie,” it’s met with, “oh yeah completely understandable.” So is getting upset over Batwoman not getting married or naked suicidal Harley less credible? These women are created by real people, who made these decisions. So… why do fans get bashed for being emotional over it?

brichibiwritesthings:

Going along with this post here (particularly the second part).  

Warnings:  GLBT, coming out

Inspiration:  I saw something that asked about the hardships people go through who are in the GLBT community.  There are two kinds of hardships, to me.  There’s the hate we always see, the slurs and bashing and whatnot, and then there’s the stuff that this piece is about.  Sometimes it’s the quieter words that are the most harmful.  A lot of times kids/teenagers are told that they’re “too young” to understand things when adolescence is, to me, the most judgmental time of a person’s life.  

There’s times when someone feels like they get it and they’re flat out told “no” if it doesn’t fit “the norm,” that they’re “too young” and “don’t get it,” which I think, in a way, is just as damaging as the blatant ”in your face” hate because people don’t realize how harmful it is, they think they’re doing something good in saying such things, and a lot of times… they’re not.  The worst part is that they honestly do mean well, you know?  Parents mean well, they want what’s best for their children, so they honestly do think that saying such things is not only o.k., but necessary.

So, here’s my pieces, for now.  It’s ongoing and just me putting words together, really, that I might put together into a thing later.  

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Wrote two things over at my writing blog for prompts via Yeah Write!  I thought I would share them and pimp out my writing blog mwuhahahaha!

Too:  in which an insecure girl gets her first secure kiss

Red:  in which an insecure boy makes a change and gets a secure response

brichibiwritesthings:

1.  The thing about having it all is that, in reality, he doesn’t.

It’s an illusion, really, that other people see when they look at him.

For one thing, there’s no clear meaning as to what all even is, what constitutes it, and how one goes about obtaining it.  He gets the superficial meaning, of course — looks, money, popularity — but is that, really, all?  

Despite this, whatever all is, he’s fairly certain that he wants to keep it — or so he’s told by everyone around him.  Apparently, he’s lucky to have it all, so lucky, in fact, that they wish they had it, themselves.  Therefore, he’d be a fool to let it go.

So he keeps himself locked tightly in his closet, safe, where he can keep it all.

***

2.   She wishes there was a handbook on who the one is and how to obtain such a person.  She hears her friends and family talking about it all the time, or rather, the female friends and family in her life.  What she knows so far is this: the one is someone she is destined to find, either by her own attempts or by sheer luck of the draw.  The one is someone she is supposed to desire, to the point of bettering herself to make herself appealing to the one.  

But most importantly, the one?  Male.  Definitely male.  

… right?

In which my morning drabble ramblings touch topics that are personal to me (particularly the second one for reasons)  May expand on these later?