So the news came in today that Fred Phelps is dead.Not really a rant, just my final thoughts on Fred Phelps since he died today. It’s ironic that he died on the first day of Spring, isn’t it?
And the world says farewell to a truly ugly soul.
First character interview for Character Wednesdays on my blog is up! Today we have Avery Blair who has always dreamed of being a star, assuming of course that his boyfriend can stop him from being murdered- again.
What goes through the mind of a music major who’s a gaming geek with a boyfriend who isn’t? Check out this interview and find out :)
Stop stereotyping
Thaaaaank youuuu
RE-BLOGGING THE SHIT OUT OF THIS
This! The number of times I’ve been told that I don’t “look” gay is irritating.
instagranph : Our costumes for the Halloween carnival at the kids’ preschool yesterday. But 10/31 will be frighteningly different..! @DavidBurtka came up with both themes/costumes. He’s amazing.
Bless this family. Seriously.
I would just like to say this—I think the ‘A’ in GLBTAQ should be more about ‘asexual’ than ’allies’ because asexuals deal with ALL KINDS OF BULLSHIT re: people being unable to process the idea that sex does not need to be a THING in relationships/‘natural’ for…
…. Am I the only person who thought “A” was for asexuals? Can I just say, dear acronym, that I’m disappoint.
It IS for Asexuals. I remember being told years and years ago that it was for allies, so I suppose maybe at one point that was the marketing, but… urg. So less needed.
I do agree, Asexuals do need to be represented more. However, I also think Allies are important. I love my Allies, I love having support. It makes me happy to see people who don’t identify as someone in this diverse group supporting said group :) One of my favorite moments working at GameStop was hearing straight people tell me how dumb it was that I couldn’t get married, and just… that means a lot. I sort of expect people in this circle to be supportive, so when someone outside the circle is like, “omfg why can’t you get married you two obviously love each other,” that makes me happy. Like both of my managers were supportive, so much so that they let my partner use my discount even if we weren’t “married.” They recognized her as my wife. Not every store would do that. It’s something small, but it meant the world to me.
I’m not saying that Asexuals shouldn’t be represented, because they should, but in this coming out day I’ve seen two posts that have been like, “Allies, whatever,” and no. Allies are important, guys. I appreciate all of them. Yeah, everyone should be supportive, but not everyone is, so it means a lot to meet people who are.
My coming out story
Since it’s National Coming Out Day, I thought I would share my story. By the way, the offer of messaging me your story is still open, if you need someone to come out to. It’s a hard thing to do, but it’s also something you want to get out there. It’s hard to keep it in, but it’s also hard to keep in because you don’t want to hide. So I’m here for that :)
Anyhow, story under the cut.
davinci678said:So that’s really a day? I had honestly never heard of that. How do people agree on such things if a lot of the community is behind secretive? :0
Just because some people are still in the closet doesn’t mean that we’re not aware of the community :) It’s not really being secretive, not to me. It’s being worried about what others think. Like, for example, in college when I was on campus I was pretty much out? Like I didn’t broadcast it but I talked about my partner. But when I went back home, I was straight again, because I was worried about telling them.
Honestly, I just heard about this day last year. Coming out can be pretty scary, depending on the situation you’re in. Even if you’re in a good situation, there’s so many horror stories with it or off-handed things people say that can make you wary about doing it. I remember in like, college, we were watching “In and Out,” which is about a guy getting married but then he realizes he’s gay. Anyhow, one of my aunts asked my dad, “What if she were gay?” And he flat out said, “She’s not.” At the time, I wasn’t with my partner, but stuff like that sticks with you when you do realize you’re gay, or trans, or bi, or asexual, or anything. In fact, part of me thinks that the hardest person to come out to sometimes is yourself. I flat out denied it, to the point of ignoring the girl I liked (who is now my partner). I denied it because being gay wasn’t something that was really talked about. My dad flat out said “no she’s not” just from watching a movie, the thought of telling him that I was gay? No.
But more on that on the actual day itself, that’s… an interesting story.
