rampant-noodle:

alex-bryant:

viciouswinter:

thelifeandtimesofagaymer:

darateke:

At NYC pride [x]

#as much as i love lady gaga this is kinda true

Except it’s not true whatsoever. Lady Gaga is openly bisexual. So, she does belong in our community, and this guy’s bisexual erasure is fucking awful. Also - if you’re going to dismiss Lady Gaga as a gay icon because you think she’s a “straight white woman” (which is, yet again, false because Lady Gaga is bisexual), Kelly Rowland can be dismissed as well because she’s actually heterosexual.

Not only that, but saying things about how she doesn’t know what it’s like to be bullied because she’s a “white woman” is fucking bullshit. People get bullied all the time for a multitude of reasons, bullying isn’t something that’s exclusive to oppressed groups. Not to mention that women still *ARE* an oppressed group!

And while she may not be a spokesperson in the eyes of this guy, this guy also doesn’t speak for the entire LGBTQ+ community, so he needs to sit down and shut up before acting like his word is law.

White gay males are the largest population in the LGBTQ+ community, they hold the majority - but they don’t get to make the rules. They’re not the only ones oppressed, and they don’t even have it the worst. Try talking to any trans* people, or queer PoCs, or intersex and genderqueer people, or even most bisexual, asexual, or pansexual people. If you want to talk about marginalization and oppression - talk to them. In comparison, gay white males have it easy.

I’m not dismissing the issues that us white gay males deal with, because we still deal with oppression from a multitude of sources, but if we’re going to compare - then white gay males come out ahead in the “most privilege” race.

I’m not saying that there isn’t valid reason for disliking Lady Gaga - but this argument is terrible and doesn’t make a single valid point.

 #REBLOGGING FOR THE COMMENTARY#I WANNA PUNCH THIS ASSHOLE IN THE FACE#ALSO NOTICE HOW HE ADDS PENIS AS A REQUIREMENT TO EVERYTHING#EVEN A LESBIAN NEEDS A PENIS APPARENTLY#SHUT THE FUCK UP MAN

FUCKING THANK YOU GOD BLESS YOU I’VE BEEN WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO SAY ALL OF THIS UGHGHHHHHHHHHHH I HATE IT EVERY TIME THIS GIFSET COMES ON MY DASH

reblogging for the commentary. Thank you all for saying what I had been wanting to say but couldn’t find the words for. 

I’m going to add to this, because it needs to be said, because I fit in a crap ton of “oppressed” groups.  And as much as I absolutely love having the support from other plus sized/LGBTQ/black/female/geeks, you know what absolutely feels amazing?

WHEN PEOPLE IN THE “MAJORITY” ARE ON MY SIDE, TOO!

Events like PRIDE are to show that, hey, we are here, and be happy with who you are and, you know, for people who are the “majority” to accept the fact that we are here.  HOW FUCKING BACKWARDS IS IT TO BASH SOMEONE WHO YOU FEEL DOESN’T BELONG IN THE GROUP?!  ARE YOU REALLY GOING TO BASH SOMEONE SUPPORTING YOU BECAUSE YOU FEEL LIKE THEY DON’T FIT?!  Besides the fact that, as the commenter said, Lady Gaga is bi so she “fits,” but let’s say she were a straight white woman.

THAT’S EVEN BETTER!  BECAUSE THAT MEANS SOMEONE OUTSIDE THE GROUP IS ON OUR SIDE!  ISN’T THAT WHAT WE WANT?!  Don’t we want the ones who are still bellyaching about LGBTQ people to, you know, stop fusing about it and let us be happy?  ISN’T THAT WHAT WE WANT?!  So, you know, you would WANT THE STRAIGHT WHITE WOMAN TO COME OUT AND SAY, “ACCEPT THEM!”  Instead, this guy is busy complaining.  Complaining!  Are you fucking kidding me?!  THE MORE PEOPLE ON MY SIDE THE BETTER!  You all bitch and complain about being bullied, what the hell do you think you’re doing right now?!

It’s like… being in a burning building and being picky about who comes to save you.  "Sorry, rescuer, you don’t know what it feels like to run away from a fire, go and get a fire fighter who’s been trapped in a burning building.“

Sorry, just… this fucking irritates me beyond belief.  "Ugh I wish people would just let me be me,” then someone comes out and says, “Hey, I want you to be you, you’re beautiful the way you are.”  The response SHOULD NOT BE, “… no you’re a straight white woman you shouldn’t be saying that because you don’t get it.”  Let.  People.  Support.  You.  Because.  We.  Want.  Support.  Do.  NOT.  BE.  PICKY.  ABOUT.  WHERE.  THAT.  SUPPORT.  COMES.  FROM!  

Well, to all the straight white women out there, from a plus sized black geeky woman who’s been dating a woman for 11 years:  KEEP SINGING FOR ME, O.K?!  I NEED YOUR SUPPORT AND LOVE GETTING IT!  This sentiment goes to all of the white/straight/you know what who gives a fuck what your gender/race/sexual preference is, as long as you’re supporting the cause then you’ll get a smile from me.

All.  Of.  This.  Especially the 2nd one, the 3rd one, the 5th one, and the 6th one.  This is because:

a) I guess black girls don’t look lesbian enough, unless if they’re super butch?  Oh we also don’t look like geeks either.  Even though I worked at GameStop and wore fucking companion cubes in my ears

b)  I’ve never been intimate with a guy.  I’ve messed around with them and had a boyfriend in high school, but we never went all the way.  So then I got the question, “How do you know?  You haven’t been with a guy.”

c) I double majored in English and Women’s Studies.  That’s Women’s Studies part triggered some red flags.  Clearly, Women’s Studies would make me hate all men.

d)  It’s just a phase.

Here’s the truth:

a)  NOT ALL LESBIANS WILL HAVE SHORT HAIR AND WEAR FLANNEL!  NOT ALL LESBIANS WILL DRESS IN WHAT YOU CONSIDER TO BE MASCULINE CLOTHING!  Some do, yes, but not all of them.  There is no “lesbian” look.  In the same breath, NOT ALL GAY MEN WILL BE FLAMBOYANT!  Some will, yes, but not all!  Here’s a secret: most gay/lesbian people?  Look.  Like.  Everyone.  Else.  GASP!  I KNOW, RIGHT?!  This go for geeks.  NOT ALL GEEKS ARE GOING TO LIVE IN THEIR MOTHER’S BASEMENT, BE OVERWEIGHT, BE AWKWARD, and all that’s in between.  Some are, yes, but not all. (my upcoming short story for Dreamspinner actually touches on this, as it has a black, attractive geek, and the lead character is surprised by it).

b)  JUST BECAUSE A WOMAN ISN’T WITH A MAN DOESN’T MEAN SHE NEEDS TO BE WITH ONE TO FIGURE OUT IF SHE’S A LESBIAN!  Guess what?  Sometimes, women just know that they’re attracted to other women. Or, in my case, they fall in love with another woman.  Same with men.  WHY DOESN’T ANYONE ASK STRAIGHT WOMEN, “Dur you’ve never been with a woman how do you know you’re not a lesbian?”  Because they just know, right?  Well, so do we.

c)  WOMEN’S STUDIES DOES NOT MAKE YOU HATE MEN!  It makes you want everyone to be equal, it makes you want everyone to have a voice, regardless of gender, sexual preference, race, and all that’s in between.  It makes you aware of the issues in our society that you might not have been aware of unless you were a victim of them.  Or, in my case, you know about the racial issues because you’re black, but you never think about the gender issues because NO ONE addressed them to me.  Sure, I got the, “Dur girls don’t play video games,” but that’s about it, honestly.  Now, black issues?  Yeah that’s been talked about since high school.  I knew about the struggles of my race, but not about my gender.  I also knew such things because of my family talking to me.  The ONLY women talk was that, “Let’s separate the boys and girls and talk about menstruation ”  

And you know what?  Women’s Studies went beyond just women’s issues.  It was more “cultural/social issues” and not just “women.”  In a way, Women’s Studies made me appreciate men more.  It made me appreciate the good men I had in my life.  I have an awesome, AWESOME dad, who took great care of me.  And it wasn’t for some tragic “something happened to my mom” reason.  Women’s Studies made me see that, you know, we talk a lot about the terrible men, but never seem to appreciate the good.  Or, if they are good, we assume there’s a reason behind it, or it’s a lie.  I would talk about how I grew up with my dad and some people would assume he was FORCED into it, like, “Something happened to your mom, right?”  No, actually.  Instead of having my mom struggle to raise me in her apartment in Chicago, I moved in with my dad who was getting remarried and getting a house.  That man would take me to see my mom every weekend since I was 9 years old.  He would go pick her up to go see my school functions if she couldn’t get a ride to them since she didn’t drive.  And my parents always, always told their new significant others that I came first.  That if they couldn’t understand that my father was taking me to see my mother and seeing her on a weekly basis, too bad.  Hell, my dad took care of my older brother, and he wasn’t even his son.  But you know what?  In my brother’s obituary my dad is named his father.  His father ran off on my mom shortly after he was born.  She was 16.  When my dad met my mom, he helped with my brother, so much so that I thought we had the same dad until I was 10.

SO I DON’T HATE MEN!  How can I when I had such a great influence in my dad?  And my brother?  There is no hatred here, so STOP THINKING THAT!  

d)  FUCK YOU IT’S BEEN 11 YEARS IT’S NOT A GODDAMN PHASE!  

seasidehearts:

smoke-and-sketchpads:

Guys, this is my little brother, Reese. He just turned eight last March, and he is in second grade. He had found that he prefers guys to girls. When he told his friends that at recess, they threw rocks at him. Rocks. He came home crying, saying that his friends had called him names like “faggot” and “homo”. Second graders called him these names. I explained to him that it is perfectly okay to be gay, and that I will still love him no matter what. Unfortunately, my parents don’t agree. He’s been set apart from the family and his friends for his sexuality, that he has no control over. I’m not doing this for notes or to gain followers. I’m doing this to show Reese he will be accepted by many people no matter what sexuality he is. Reblog if you support my eight year old brother, no matter his sexuality.

I’m so sorry that happened to him =[ just let him know real friends will always accept him for who he is, no matter what, and if they don’t, then they’re not real friends. I met my best friend in third grade so hopefully he will meet a lifelong friend soon =]

Much love to this kid.

brichibiwritesthings:

Check it out, guys!  I’m working on a new story before “Treat Me Kindly” gets published!  Some may say I’m crazy, but… well I am crazy, but this was actually done some time ago and I’m just editing/snazzing it up before sending it to publishers.

This is a gay romance story that suddenly turned novel length (oops?)  It’s kinda got a crime thriller vibe, with some supernatural elements mixed in and a touch bit of horror?  There’s a brief description below followed by a snippet of the two main boys in the story and how they interact with one another  :)

Warnings:  Geekery, cute boys doing cute boy things, me trying to tempt you with my writing more

Brief synopsis:  When something tragic happens in your life you want nothing more than to close your eyes, go to sleep, and make all of the pain go away.  For Gable Peterson it’s a little more complicated than that.  When detective Maurice Ashford shows up at his door with news that his boyfriend, Avery Blair, has been found dead, Gable is left devastated.  Gable does the same thing he did when his grandfather died back when he was a little boy; he closes his eyes and imagines a world where his loved one is still alive.

Only, when Gable wakes up, he’s surprised to see that Avery is actually still alive!

Gable discovers something very peculiar about himself.  There’s a place inside of his head where another Gable Peterson exists. This other Gable tells him that he has the power to go back and keep Avery from dying.  Of course, Gable doesn’t believe anything that he’s hearing.

Until Avery dies for the second time.  

Shortly after, Gable finds himself back at day one.  Now he’s more determined than ever to save his boyfriend.

But is it worth the hardship he’s about to face?

This isn’t just some accident that happens to Avery.  Gable’s boyfriend is murdered in cold blood by someone who the media has called “The Horrific Homophobe” or “The Double H Murderer.”  This killer roams the streets of Minneapolis, kidnapping gay men who turn up dead in a week’s time.  They’re not just brutally killed, there are derogatory words written all over their bodies in a terrifying display of the hell they had suffered through during the week.  Oddly enough, along with words like FAGGOT and QUEER and HOMO are compliments of nice eyes or beautiful smile and other charming words that have no business being anywhere near such hatred.  Gable suddenly finds himself tracking down a killer, but can he save Avery in time?

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*gasp*  A new story has emerged!  Dun dun dunnnnn!

brichibiwritesthings:

Hello dear followers.  In case you missed it (though you probably didn’t because I keep spazzing about it) I am releasing a book.  It’s an urban supernatural crime thriller full of strange deaths that have been happening in the city where the only clue tends to be some sort of animal, or part of an animal (bird feathers, for example).  Today, I want to post a small snippet from the book.  Currently, it’s being assigned an editor, then that whole process can begin  :)

This is a small scene between two main characters:  Alex Sampson (the detective in charge of the strange murder case) and Nicholas Ryker (geeky friend extraordinaire)

Warnings for this snippet:  Friendly banter

Story up to this point:  A rock star has been found dead and the only clue is a small butterfly.

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“Any word Nick-Nack?”  

“It’s still Nicholas, Alex.”

Nicholas ‘Nick-Nack’ — it’s still Nicholas, Alex — Ryker sits at his computer, several windows open and showing different pictures of butterflies.  His eyes scan each box, closing the ones he doesn’t need and opening up five more in a matter of seconds.  At least, it would be seconds, if not for the outdated technology of the city’s finests.  What kind of officers of the law are they when they can’t even afford decent internet?

“Isn’t that it?”  Alex points at one of the butterflies on the screen, standing behind Nicholas now.  

“No,”  Nicholas says, “That’s not the right shade of purple in its wings.”

“Looks like it to me.”

“Well it’s not.”  

“How can you tell?”

Nicholas spins around in his computer chair to look up at Alex. He’s wearing a pair of large, black glasses, the thick frames wrapped around eyes that are bright like green Christmas lights.  His hair is a couple of different shades like browning autumn leaves, the strands sticking up thanks to a handful of hair gel.  A black and white striped shirt covers his thin build, tucked into a pair of crisp blue jeans.  He doesn’t look like he’s a part of the police force, his skin is smooth and the perfect shade of baby pink unlike Alex’s rough texture.  His hours are spent on the computer and he doesn’t have the ‘luxury’ of investigations, crime scenes, and living on energy drinks and packaged Japanese noodles.  

“It’s too light, Alex,”  Nicholas says, voice laced with disdain, “God, didn’t you learn basic colors in elementary school?”

“Yeah.  Red blue and whatever the hell,”  then Alex smirks, “I know how you know the difference.  It’s because you’re-”

“Gay.  Yes.  Yes I am gay and I know colors.”

Alex attempts to ruffle Nicholas’ hair and fails, the gel forcing him to smash the molded hair down like a crispy pancake.  It springs back up as soon as Alex moves his hand away, “Damn, how do you get your hair like that?”

Nicholas smiles, “It’s a secret amongst us gay men.  If you join the club I’ll let you know.”

“Nick-Nack I’ve told you that if you grow breasts and stop standing in line at midnight for hard to pronounce video games I’ll give you a shot.”

Nicholas sighs and says it again.  “It’s still Nicholas, Alex.”

*gasp*  Can this be?  A scene from my book?  You bet!  Be sure to follow the writing blog for more snippets from my book and other upcoming projects.  Tell your friends.  Tell the dog.  Tell the mailman.  Tell everyone!  But especially the puppy because I love puppies  ^^;;;