brichibiwritesthings:

There’s this thing I want to address in regards to writing (and part of my irritation yesterday but I’m not going to go into full details about that part because it was about 50+ emails of authors going back and forth about it and I’m tired).  

For all future writers out there, I want you to know that it takes time to really see results for your writing.  Different distributors pay out at different times, ect.  You have to work hard to get your book out there and-

Actually no I’m going to stop that.

Here’s the thing that bugs me about some people in the writing circle.

I’m going to say that a lot of us already know that it takes time for your writing to really get anywhere.  Not only do you have to write the thing, you have to promote the thing and get it noticed (whether you’re self publishing or going through a publisher).  Even if you do go through a publisher, you and your publisher have to promote the thing, get it noticed, and get people interested enough to buy it.  And even if you do that, it has to get reviews, so other people can become interested and buy it.  But a lot of us already know that going in.  We know it’s hard work and we sure as hell know that this is NOT a field you go into if you’re looking to make a quick buck.  Nothing is quick about writing, or art, or anything creative.  It takes time, and even if you do sell a lot, it takes time to see results.

What irritates me is the people in this circle who feel the need to have this “holier than though I’m just here to write” attitude.  Those people who feel the need to remind you that this is hard work, that you need to keep pushing, and how that’s what they’re doing and you need to get on board.

Here’s the thing.  We’re all doing that.  I rely on my publisher to do their part, sure, but I do my part too.  Business cards and giving (yes giving) the book away to reviewers, doing interviews, all of that stuff.  And of course begging friends to not just read the book, but to leave a review, somewhere.  Anywhere.  

We might not go into writing expecting a crap ton of money, but there’s nothing wrong with expecting something.  This is a career choice.  This isn’t a hobby.  If I were writing just because I love it so much, I’d keep up the fanfiction, I’d writing chapters of “Seeking the Storyteller” on an original fiction site and call it a day.  I do love writing, dearly, but I also want to be successful in it.  I want my work published and read by people.  I want it to get big and successful.  I want to be in a position where all I do is write.  That’s it.  And there’s nothing wrong with that.  When you run into the “this is a business/it takes time/don’t do it for the money” folks it gets irritating, because, we’re all in the same boat.  You’re promoting your book, I’m promoting my book.  We all want to be successful, that’s why we went to a publisher, right?  That’s why we even bothered to have the book edited, and have a cover made, and have a publisher put it out there, and have made author pages, and have gone to conventions, and have made business cards, and have been on Goodreads and Amazon and Barnes and Noble and just… we want our books to take off.

So stop acting like that’s not what you want with this “I live and breathe writing that’s all I want.”  Because face it, that’s not all you want.  Why even make it available for people to read if all you care about is the writing aspect?  It’s because you want your book out there, you want reviews and opinions, you want it to sell, you want it to be successful.  And you know what?  There’s nothing wrong with that.  There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be successful with something you love to do.  

Writing rant that was part of my drama yesterday.  I wanted to get coherent thoughts out there so I wrote this thing up this morning after sleeping and not being irritated anymore.  

DC Comics has been having a bad week. Yesterday, two members of the Batwoman editorial team quit after their publishers refused to allow Batwoman (who is a lesbian character) to marry her partner. And now the comic company has provoked even more outrage by hosting a contest in which they readers to draw Harley Quinn, a popular villain, preparing to commit suicide. Naked.

All right. Time for a rant thing.  The person I got the link from, someone commented on it with something like, “I don’t see why people are so up in arms about fictional characters when there’s more important things to worry about.”

Just because someone has an opinion about a fictional character doesn’t mean they’re suddenly forgetting about the struggles of the world. Just because I have an opinion about what DC, or Marvel, or Ubisoft, or FUNimation, or whatever other geeky (or non geeky) company does doesn’t mean that, suddenly, I’m ignoring what’s going on in the “real world.” The geek community is part of my life, so when something happens that I have an opinion about, I’m going to say something.

If people are upset (or not upset and defending) something in the community, that doesn’t mean they’re doing something wrong. You can’t want the geek community to matter then say, “Stop getting in a tizzy over fictional characters.” And, personally, I don’t always want to think about the problems of the “real world.” The geek community is my escape, my hobby, and honestly it’s becoming my career what with writing and all. Is it wrong to get defensive over things that happened here? No. Can you honestly say that you never watched something, or read something, or played something, and never reacted to it? It’s a thing that happens sometimes, and it’s fine.

Let’s be honest. Companies like DC have been in our lives for a very, very long time. So when they do something you don’t agree with, you feel kinda betrayed. “Batwoman isn’t getting married to her girlfriend,” well… why not? They’re together and in love, why not? Marvel did it. Marvel had a gay wedding. And we all know Batwoman is a lesbian with a girlfriend she loves, so why not? Why not take that step? It makes you question things, and wonder about the company. Do I, as a lesbian, feel upset that the company I’ve been into for years won’t let two girls get married? Well… yes! It’s a way they can show support, and apparently, two of their longtime writers saw that and left over it.

Same with this Harley Quinn thing. Is Harley bonkers? Sure, absolutely. And her staying with the Joker is insane. Is suicide the answer? Honestly, if she did it, I don’t think we’d be too surprised. She’s been through hell. It would suck if she did it, yes, but the Joker is so terrible and abusive (I still remember watching the animated series and how he shoved her out a window!), so if you told me that you wrote a story where she said, I’m done, I’d be sad but… I’d get it. But why naked? Why is that a requirement in this contest? And for goodness sake, why are you holding a contest when it’s National Suicide Prevention Week this coming week? When a company I love does something like that, it makes me question their intentions, you know? It’s beyond getting upset over a fictional character. Now I’m wondering, “DC what are you doing?” And that’s to be expected when you’re a fan of something. 

There’s a difference between being upset over a fictional character because, oh, they hook up with a character you don’t like, for vain reasons. “Oh no I don’t want Heero to end up with Relena because I like him with Duo because I like yaoi.” There is a huge difference between that and, “Why does your suicidal girl have to be naked in this contest,” and, “Why can’t Batwoman get married to her canon girlfriend?” That’s what people are upset about. Stuff like that hits home. Stuff like that is personal. Stuff like that is hurtful, fictional or not. We’re not getting “up in arms” over something trivial. Having a suicide drawing contest when National Suicide Prevention Week is coming up is in terrible taste. Having your lesbian heroine NOT get married to her girlfriend is a slap in the face, ESPECIALLY when Marvel was like, “Hey look gay marriage let’s do it.” So you can’t even say that no comic book company has done it before, because they have, and they did it proudly. So what’s stopping you? 

THAT is what fans get upset about. 

It’s the same with “Ender’s Game.” Is that more credible because it’s not a comic or cartoon? Because there’s a BUNCH of people not going to the movie because the author is terribly homophobic. So, to not support HIM, they’re not going to the movie. Are we getting too “up in arms” over that? This man flat out does not like gay people, so when we say, “We’re not going to the movie,” it’s met with, “oh yeah completely understandable.” So is getting upset over Batwoman not getting married or naked suicidal Harley less credible? These women are created by real people, who made these decisions. So… why do fans get bashed for being emotional over it?

kaiserneko:

It’s come to my attention very recently that there is a large percentage of the LGBT community out there who not only do not appreciate/enjoy “Same Love” by Macklemore, but they in fact find it insulting that a heterosexual would try and sing on the behalf of our cause and orientation.

First off: Do any of you homosexuals out there who take issue with this song realize the boon that it is to have an intensely popular, heterosexual singer openly supporting us? With a beautiful, 100% legitimate song dedicated to our orientation and the issues we face?

We need this kind of support, in case you haven’t noticed. We’ve made quite the progress over the last several decades but while acceptance is at an all time high, we’re not exactly getting the fairest of treatment by mainstream media, nor are getting the sort of bi-partisan exposure and discussion that we absolutely need.

Having heterosexuals support us is so incredibly beneficial. It sets a positive example for other heterosexual men and women that may listen and enjoy them and their music.

Second: I really don’t give a damn if he’s heterosexual, when it comes to identifying with us. He sees inequality, he comprehends the sort of pain and sadness that discrimination and irrational fear bring, and he just wants to send out a positive, reaffirming message.

Stop acting like just because you’re homosexual, only you get to talk about it. His perspective is valid and his belief is legitimate; stop trying to quell the exploration of the subject and let those different from us show their love and support.

At the very least, allow them to put their own perspective into the public image. It’s their right.

Wow.  Didn’t I just reblog this like an hour ago about Madonna?  

But seriously, this whole attitude of “since you aren’t like me you can’t understand me so stop talking/singing/acting/whatever as if you know me” needs to stop.  The point of our cause it to get support.  Now that we’re getting support, we should be happy, not, “Well you’re not gay so you don’t know what you’re talking about.”  If that were the case I should be mad at the people in office in my state because they’re not gay, yet they had a vote and decided that it was o.k. for me to get married.  But wait, they aren’t gay, so they don’t understand right?   

I, for one, feel really, really happy when someone outside the minority group sees that things need to change.  When my white friends get pissed when someone is being racist, I’m happy that they get it.  When election season came up here and my straight friends voted no, and cheered when Minnesota became one of the states to allow gay married, I was thrilled.  That means that they want to see me happy, they want me to have the same rights they do, and think it’s bullshit that I don’t.  When people were talking about “legitimate rape” and things being “her fault for what she was wearing” and men stepped up like, “What the fuck are you talking about,” it was like… great.  Yes.  Thank you.  Thank you for being on my side on this.  

This sudden rush of people who feel like straight people, or white people, or men, and things like that can’t fight for us because they aren’t us is crazy.  Haven’t we been WANTING them to understand?  The fact that this song is at the top of the charts is a huge, huge deal.  And it’s not loud or violent or pissed off, it’s just… a guy talking calmly about how things need to change.  That’s it.  What’s so wrong with that?  

sonofagorgon:

m-trollacicconesboobs:

batmandracula:

A straight, white woman, from a middle class family, whos good looking. It must be real hard being you Madonna.

yeah! because Madonna has had the EAAASIEST live of them all right?? some of the funniest parts where things like when her mother died when she was 6 and she had to take care of her younger siblings! (dreamy right?) or  when she moved to new york and didn’t have enough money to buy food! (right? sounds INCREDIBLE!) and when she was raped by a guy at knifepoint??? OMG HOW FUNNY is to see your best friends die of AIDS and see  how everybody says they deserve it because they are gay! (hillarious!) and specially when her then husband Sean Penn abused her for several months that concluded with her 8h bound to a chair raped and beaten by a baseball bat! then  OMG the media has always been so kind to her! (they never called her slut, bitch…) and let’s not forget her 2 miscarriages in a period of 4 years!(OMG how does she dare complain?)without forgetting that every day she wakes up to Little monsters sending her death treats and reminding her that she is old and should die (SWEET!) 

But the thing that irks me the most is that this bitch has done nothing to deserve what she has, because she hasn’t worked hard in her entire life, I mean only 600 hours of rehersal for her last tour SHAME ON YOU, and obviously it’s AMAZING to see how the media dimisnishes your talent and accomplishments in a 30 years+ period by calling you talentless ( I mean she only writes and coproduces all her songs, WHAT A DUMB BITCH) and most of all her lack of compromise with the LGBTQAI community, that lead to criticism from all the conservative groups even nowadays! because she hasn’t built herself as a person at all.

the conclusion is you don’t have the right to complain if you are not from a minority right?

#how to sit someone down: a guide

This this this this this THIS THIS THIS!  Like o.k., I get if you want to be all supportive of minority groups.  That’s awesome, o.k.?  Keep doing that.  However, I’ve said it like a thousand times and I’ll keep saying it, the way to support us is NOT BY BASHING ANOTHER GROUP!  Do NOT bash white people, or straight people, or men, or anything.  Anything. ANYTHING!  DO NOT BASH THEM AND DO NOT MAKE ASSUMPTIONS OF THEIR LIVES BEING EASY because they aren’t minorities.    

Now is white privilege and male privilege things like that exist?  Yes.  But that does not give you the right to tell these people, “Pfft your life is soooooo easy,” because you don’t know them personally.  I have a lot of great white friends, straight friends, male friends, skinny friends, they are amazing people I would never, NEVER go to them and say, “You don’t know what it’s like to be black/lesbian/female/plus sized,” just… no.  That is COUNTER-PRODUCTIVE TO YOUR CAUSE!  They are my friends because they love me for me and when someone is racist, or sexist, or homophobic, or fat bashing, or whatever THEY ARE THERE FOR ME.  I am NOT going to be like, “Get out of here you don’t understand because it’ll never happen to you!”  

I mean fuck my partner is a white girl, jesus!  Should I hate her because she “will never understand what it’s like to be a black woman,” I mean… just… stop being supportive by bashing others, that’s not support that’s anger.  

cosplaytutorial:

Yesterday’s New York Post review of upcoming SyFy reality show, Heroes of Cosplay, angered quite a few of us in…

One of the many great responses to the Heroes of Cosplay review that irked many of the community. 

What also pisses me off is the fact that, for some reason, cosplay is seen as so weird when there’s so many “normal” things that are just as passionate but aren’t seen as weird.  

Face painters at football games, or people who paint their chest, or wear foam cheese on their head.  People who will go to these games no matter how hot or cold it is, baseball, football, basketball, whatever who cares.  I live in Minnesota and people will trek through the snow to watch a Vikings game.  And come now, talking about cosplayers where you wear the team colors to these games and get PISSED OFF if someone in the opposite team colors shows up.  Boo them, hiss at them, over clothing.  "But it’s part of the entertainment,“ you say, well cosplay is part of my entertainment, too.

Spending a bunch of money to get good seats to a concert that’s for two hours versus spending 25 - 75 dollars for a three day event.  Buying T-shirts at said concert for 30+ dollars.  Sitting in traffic forever for said concert, only to have the main attraction show up late with no explanation, but whatever, you’re going to go to the concert again when they come back to your city.  Also who cares about their personal lives and beliefs, the music is good that’s all that matters right?  So what if this person beat up his girlfriend, or watch fans shave their heads because they thought he was sick when it turned out he was perfectly fine, or is sexist of homophobic, whatever who cares the music is off the chain!  

Wearing clothing brands that a celebrity wears because they wear it, or listening to a magazine about "what’s hot,” or “this is where you should eat” or hell, listening to a magazine about “how to please him/her.”  You’re listening.  To printed.  Paper.  On how.  To make.  A human being.  Happy.  And the tips change all the time.  "Yes yahoo, please tell me how to get a date.“  Did that sound harsh?  Well, you judging me because I like to go to a convention and have fun is harsh too, ESPECIALLY since you didn’t even BOTHER to do RESEARCH!

Cosplay is just another thing that we like that’s part of the entertainment industry.  Before you call it weird, look at the things you enjoy everyday and think about what would be seen as weird.  You actually spent that much money for a pair of shoes?  Weird.  You care so much about who wins a football game that you waste your Sunday updating your Facebook status with scores, or you have that "lucky” jersey, or you drop a bunch of money on food and drinks for the Super Bowl: a one day event?  Weird.  You spend how many hours playing Candy Crush?  Weird.  You listen to a kid on the radio when you’re twenty years older than him?  Weird.  

So yeah, watch who you’re calling weird, because guess what?  When it comes to entertainment and media, we’re all weird in some way.  Unless you can tell me honestly that there’s not anything in the entertainment industry that doesn’t make you excited, then guess what?  You have some weird in you. 

appleloniasway:

onlyyoublog:

crystalsavestheday:

fragiledaisies:

shit.

chills forever

Her enthusiasm though. Yes.

GO.AWF!!!

This.  All of this.  There’s also the fact of being poor and taking care of your family and trying to do what’s best for them without having the means to do so.  I didn’t grow up poor, but my parents sure as hell didn’t have much money, and it wasn’t until I got older that my mom flat out told me, “You realize we weren’t at all wealthy,” but I FELT like we were, because my parents did so much for me.  I had good birthdays and good holidays, I got good presents and got rewarded for good grades.  I can’t even begin to imagine what they did to make me feel so loved when they didn’t have much.  And I know for a fact I have family who still live in these places this woman is talking about, I’ve been to these kinds of areas to visit family, I’ve woken up at sleepovers to see cockroaches and while I would freak out my relatives would be like, “Eh whatever.”  I’ve been in places where you come in at a certain time for a reason, where there are a bunch of people outside on the corner for no reason other than to do something shady.  There are areas in Chicago where you don’t drive through unless if you absolutely have to, especially at night.  This woman is speaking truth.  

The wealthy are secure even if they mess up, it’s the poor people who need help.  Don’t make assumptions about them, ever.  This “ghetto” lifestyle isn’t a choice, no one chooses to be this poor and live in a neighborhood where standing on a corner is risky. Can you imagine being scared to walk down the street?  Walk outside of your house right now, can you imagine feeling uncomfortable about doing that?  What’s the risk about being wealthy?  Losing some money? Try being poor and being scared about losing your life, or your family’s life, or your friend or significant other.

rampant-noodle:

alex-bryant:

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thelifeandtimesofagaymer:

darateke:

At NYC pride [x]

#as much as i love lady gaga this is kinda true

Except it’s not true whatsoever. Lady Gaga is openly bisexual. So, she does belong in our community, and this guy’s bisexual erasure is fucking awful. Also - if you’re going to dismiss Lady Gaga as a gay icon because you think she’s a “straight white woman” (which is, yet again, false because Lady Gaga is bisexual), Kelly Rowland can be dismissed as well because she’s actually heterosexual.

Not only that, but saying things about how she doesn’t know what it’s like to be bullied because she’s a “white woman” is fucking bullshit. People get bullied all the time for a multitude of reasons, bullying isn’t something that’s exclusive to oppressed groups. Not to mention that women still *ARE* an oppressed group!

And while she may not be a spokesperson in the eyes of this guy, this guy also doesn’t speak for the entire LGBTQ+ community, so he needs to sit down and shut up before acting like his word is law.

White gay males are the largest population in the LGBTQ+ community, they hold the majority - but they don’t get to make the rules. They’re not the only ones oppressed, and they don’t even have it the worst. Try talking to any trans* people, or queer PoCs, or intersex and genderqueer people, or even most bisexual, asexual, or pansexual people. If you want to talk about marginalization and oppression - talk to them. In comparison, gay white males have it easy.

I’m not dismissing the issues that us white gay males deal with, because we still deal with oppression from a multitude of sources, but if we’re going to compare - then white gay males come out ahead in the “most privilege” race.

I’m not saying that there isn’t valid reason for disliking Lady Gaga - but this argument is terrible and doesn’t make a single valid point.

 #REBLOGGING FOR THE COMMENTARY#I WANNA PUNCH THIS ASSHOLE IN THE FACE#ALSO NOTICE HOW HE ADDS PENIS AS A REQUIREMENT TO EVERYTHING#EVEN A LESBIAN NEEDS A PENIS APPARENTLY#SHUT THE FUCK UP MAN

FUCKING THANK YOU GOD BLESS YOU I’VE BEEN WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO SAY ALL OF THIS UGHGHHHHHHHHHHH I HATE IT EVERY TIME THIS GIFSET COMES ON MY DASH

reblogging for the commentary. Thank you all for saying what I had been wanting to say but couldn’t find the words for. 

I’m going to add to this, because it needs to be said, because I fit in a crap ton of “oppressed” groups.  And as much as I absolutely love having the support from other plus sized/LGBTQ/black/female/geeks, you know what absolutely feels amazing?

WHEN PEOPLE IN THE “MAJORITY” ARE ON MY SIDE, TOO!

Events like PRIDE are to show that, hey, we are here, and be happy with who you are and, you know, for people who are the “majority” to accept the fact that we are here.  HOW FUCKING BACKWARDS IS IT TO BASH SOMEONE WHO YOU FEEL DOESN’T BELONG IN THE GROUP?!  ARE YOU REALLY GOING TO BASH SOMEONE SUPPORTING YOU BECAUSE YOU FEEL LIKE THEY DON’T FIT?!  Besides the fact that, as the commenter said, Lady Gaga is bi so she “fits,” but let’s say she were a straight white woman.

THAT’S EVEN BETTER!  BECAUSE THAT MEANS SOMEONE OUTSIDE THE GROUP IS ON OUR SIDE!  ISN’T THAT WHAT WE WANT?!  Don’t we want the ones who are still bellyaching about LGBTQ people to, you know, stop fusing about it and let us be happy?  ISN’T THAT WHAT WE WANT?!  So, you know, you would WANT THE STRAIGHT WHITE WOMAN TO COME OUT AND SAY, “ACCEPT THEM!”  Instead, this guy is busy complaining.  Complaining!  Are you fucking kidding me?!  THE MORE PEOPLE ON MY SIDE THE BETTER!  You all bitch and complain about being bullied, what the hell do you think you’re doing right now?!

It’s like… being in a burning building and being picky about who comes to save you.  "Sorry, rescuer, you don’t know what it feels like to run away from a fire, go and get a fire fighter who’s been trapped in a burning building.“

Sorry, just… this fucking irritates me beyond belief.  "Ugh I wish people would just let me be me,” then someone comes out and says, “Hey, I want you to be you, you’re beautiful the way you are.”  The response SHOULD NOT BE, “… no you’re a straight white woman you shouldn’t be saying that because you don’t get it.”  Let.  People.  Support.  You.  Because.  We.  Want.  Support.  Do.  NOT.  BE.  PICKY.  ABOUT.  WHERE.  THAT.  SUPPORT.  COMES.  FROM!  

Well, to all the straight white women out there, from a plus sized black geeky woman who’s been dating a woman for 11 years:  KEEP SINGING FOR ME, O.K?!  I NEED YOUR SUPPORT AND LOVE GETTING IT!  This sentiment goes to all of the white/straight/you know what who gives a fuck what your gender/race/sexual preference is, as long as you’re supporting the cause then you’ll get a smile from me.

All.  Of.  This.  Especially the 2nd one, the 3rd one, the 5th one, and the 6th one.  This is because:

a) I guess black girls don’t look lesbian enough, unless if they’re super butch?  Oh we also don’t look like geeks either.  Even though I worked at GameStop and wore fucking companion cubes in my ears

b)  I’ve never been intimate with a guy.  I’ve messed around with them and had a boyfriend in high school, but we never went all the way.  So then I got the question, “How do you know?  You haven’t been with a guy.”

c) I double majored in English and Women’s Studies.  That’s Women’s Studies part triggered some red flags.  Clearly, Women’s Studies would make me hate all men.

d)  It’s just a phase.

Here’s the truth:

a)  NOT ALL LESBIANS WILL HAVE SHORT HAIR AND WEAR FLANNEL!  NOT ALL LESBIANS WILL DRESS IN WHAT YOU CONSIDER TO BE MASCULINE CLOTHING!  Some do, yes, but not all of them.  There is no “lesbian” look.  In the same breath, NOT ALL GAY MEN WILL BE FLAMBOYANT!  Some will, yes, but not all!  Here’s a secret: most gay/lesbian people?  Look.  Like.  Everyone.  Else.  GASP!  I KNOW, RIGHT?!  This go for geeks.  NOT ALL GEEKS ARE GOING TO LIVE IN THEIR MOTHER’S BASEMENT, BE OVERWEIGHT, BE AWKWARD, and all that’s in between.  Some are, yes, but not all. (my upcoming short story for Dreamspinner actually touches on this, as it has a black, attractive geek, and the lead character is surprised by it).

b)  JUST BECAUSE A WOMAN ISN’T WITH A MAN DOESN’T MEAN SHE NEEDS TO BE WITH ONE TO FIGURE OUT IF SHE’S A LESBIAN!  Guess what?  Sometimes, women just know that they’re attracted to other women. Or, in my case, they fall in love with another woman.  Same with men.  WHY DOESN’T ANYONE ASK STRAIGHT WOMEN, “Dur you’ve never been with a woman how do you know you’re not a lesbian?”  Because they just know, right?  Well, so do we.

c)  WOMEN’S STUDIES DOES NOT MAKE YOU HATE MEN!  It makes you want everyone to be equal, it makes you want everyone to have a voice, regardless of gender, sexual preference, race, and all that’s in between.  It makes you aware of the issues in our society that you might not have been aware of unless you were a victim of them.  Or, in my case, you know about the racial issues because you’re black, but you never think about the gender issues because NO ONE addressed them to me.  Sure, I got the, “Dur girls don’t play video games,” but that’s about it, honestly.  Now, black issues?  Yeah that’s been talked about since high school.  I knew about the struggles of my race, but not about my gender.  I also knew such things because of my family talking to me.  The ONLY women talk was that, “Let’s separate the boys and girls and talk about menstruation ”  

And you know what?  Women’s Studies went beyond just women’s issues.  It was more “cultural/social issues” and not just “women.”  In a way, Women’s Studies made me appreciate men more.  It made me appreciate the good men I had in my life.  I have an awesome, AWESOME dad, who took great care of me.  And it wasn’t for some tragic “something happened to my mom” reason.  Women’s Studies made me see that, you know, we talk a lot about the terrible men, but never seem to appreciate the good.  Or, if they are good, we assume there’s a reason behind it, or it’s a lie.  I would talk about how I grew up with my dad and some people would assume he was FORCED into it, like, “Something happened to your mom, right?”  No, actually.  Instead of having my mom struggle to raise me in her apartment in Chicago, I moved in with my dad who was getting remarried and getting a house.  That man would take me to see my mom every weekend since I was 9 years old.  He would go pick her up to go see my school functions if she couldn’t get a ride to them since she didn’t drive.  And my parents always, always told their new significant others that I came first.  That if they couldn’t understand that my father was taking me to see my mother and seeing her on a weekly basis, too bad.  Hell, my dad took care of my older brother, and he wasn’t even his son.  But you know what?  In my brother’s obituary my dad is named his father.  His father ran off on my mom shortly after he was born.  She was 16.  When my dad met my mom, he helped with my brother, so much so that I thought we had the same dad until I was 10.

SO I DON’T HATE MEN!  How can I when I had such a great influence in my dad?  And my brother?  There is no hatred here, so STOP THINKING THAT!  

d)  FUCK YOU IT’S BEEN 11 YEARS IT’S NOT A GODDAMN PHASE!  

brichibiwritesthings:

So something occurred to me that I can’t quite understand thanks to a comment on facebook (of course) and talking to sarahfongcosplay, to the point that I’m going to ramble about it, only I hope I sound at least a bit coherent with my thoughts.  Going on my writing blog because… it’s me writing  ^^;;;

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Ramblings on cosplay and why it sometimes boggles my mind.  Courtesy of other people’s assumptions about things.

I was really trying hard NOT to enter into this argument, but it keeps popping up, and I can’t help it.  

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