I think the idea of “glorifying obesity” is, frankly, a load of crap.  Mostly because of what I’ve posted before:  people assume that fat people are lazy, that they do nothing at all but sit around all day being miserable. However, at the same time, whenever a fat person goes out and does anything its “glorifying obesity.”  You can’t have it both ways.  You can’t tell someone they’re lazy then tell them they’re glorifying something bad by not being lazy.  You can’t say to me, “Stop sitting around all day go out and do something,” then I go out, cosplay, promote my books, my art, hang out with friends, enjoy my time with my partner, plan our wedding, then suddenly all of that is “glorifying obesity.”  It’s not glorifying my size, it’s glorifying my life and the things that make me happy. 

The other thing I always say is to be happy with yourself.  That’s because your size doesn’t matter as far as your mental health is concerned.  If you were to lose weight, for instance, but still be unhappy with yourself for whatever reason, then your appearance isn’t going to mean anything.  At all.  

There’s this illusion, I think, that thin equals happy.  Happiness isn’t a size. There are thin people who aren’t happy with their appearance but I think, as a fat person, we’re told, “No, that’s what you need to be happy,” to the point that when a thin person is like, “I’m insecure about my appearance,” we’re like, “Shut the fuck up, you’re thin.”  Happiness, insecurity, all of those things are not a size.  Laziness is not a size trait.  Size is simply that: a size.  

Thank you for your question and being mature about it, and honestly, thank you for being the first person to actually comment on how good the dress is and not discredit it because of my size.

Sometimes I still get responses to that article I wrote. Sometimes they’re not always positive. They’re jerky with lots of swears and lowercase letters and the occasional misspelling. And sometimes I think, I can type out some elegant response to “Anime/Cartoon characters are supposed to be slim and beatiful” but then I realize… what’s the point of getting all frustrated with someone who actually thinks that every single animated character fits with some realistic model of beauty, which isn’t even realistic to begin with if you look into how much photoshopping goes into making people “beautiful,” at least according to this person’s definition or what being beatiful is. 

Maybe that is what being beatiful is? That’s not how you spell beautiful so…

Or how I should be ashamed of how I look. I mean I have 12 years of a relationship, friends, family, and fans who are apparently wrong in thinking that I’m a good person, and that I’m pretty. SHAME ON ALL OF YOU! You should listen to this guy, for shame! Stop protecting me o.k.? Because clearly I’m a person who needs protection in the first place it’s not like I wrote that article to say “love yourself” I wrote that out of needing protection from my own… fatness?

Or how apparently it’s the outside appearance that makes us love these characters, not their personalities or anything, that would be silly. I’m clearly attached to Tiana for her good looks, not for her “you have to work for what you want” attitude, no that’s not it at all. I spent 25 episodes watching “Attack on Titan” because Eren’s so hot, not because it’s a gripping series that keeps you at the edge of your seat and OMG THERE’S A TITAN BEHIND YOU RUN! 

And how cosplay should apparently exclude a large chunk of the fandom that even makes these characters popular in the first place. Unless, of course, you believe that everyone who enjoys anime/manga/cartoons/movies/television/video games/ect. is this skinny, beatiful person who looks like they walked right out of that series you love. Or that the creators of these series are just these flawless beings. Plus sized people are too lazy to make your favorite shows you know every single person who worked on the Avengers is as skinny as a cartoon character… wait Joss Whedon isn’t…

Or how I guess skinny cosplayers just magically look like that all the time and don’t do anything to achieve that look. Or that they don’t get any grief in the cosplay community either because they are perfect. They’re never called “fake” or “attention whores” or anything like that. 

I do apologize for the existence of men like this person who can’t spell “beautiful,” because people like him are why female cosplayers are so defensive about men and assume that they’re going to be picked on by them when, in reality, male cosplayers have insecurities too. But because of people like this guy it’s assumed that men are just big bullies who have this inaccurate sense of what beauty is when, to be honest, the ones I’ve met at conventions are just as realistic as I am 

Oh and I also don’t feel the need to get frustrated with comments like this because when I click on the article and see about 400+ positive remarks out of maybe 4 or 5 negative ones, I smile and put my cool kid glasses on ^^

Oh and in case you missed it this is the article I wrote, the negative comment is in there somewhere, if you don’t mind going through hundreds of positive notes (I know it’s there I get notifications lol, you don’t have to look for it)

sonofagorgon:

m-trollacicconesboobs:

batmandracula:

A straight, white woman, from a middle class family, whos good looking. It must be real hard being you Madonna.

yeah! because Madonna has had the EAAASIEST live of them all right?? some of the funniest parts where things like when her mother died when she was 6 and she had to take care of her younger siblings! (dreamy right?) or  when she moved to new york and didn’t have enough money to buy food! (right? sounds INCREDIBLE!) and when she was raped by a guy at knifepoint??? OMG HOW FUNNY is to see your best friends die of AIDS and see  how everybody says they deserve it because they are gay! (hillarious!) and specially when her then husband Sean Penn abused her for several months that concluded with her 8h bound to a chair raped and beaten by a baseball bat! then  OMG the media has always been so kind to her! (they never called her slut, bitch…) and let’s not forget her 2 miscarriages in a period of 4 years!(OMG how does she dare complain?)without forgetting that every day she wakes up to Little monsters sending her death treats and reminding her that she is old and should die (SWEET!) 

But the thing that irks me the most is that this bitch has done nothing to deserve what she has, because she hasn’t worked hard in her entire life, I mean only 600 hours of rehersal for her last tour SHAME ON YOU, and obviously it’s AMAZING to see how the media dimisnishes your talent and accomplishments in a 30 years+ period by calling you talentless ( I mean she only writes and coproduces all her songs, WHAT A DUMB BITCH) and most of all her lack of compromise with the LGBTQAI community, that lead to criticism from all the conservative groups even nowadays! because she hasn’t built herself as a person at all.

the conclusion is you don’t have the right to complain if you are not from a minority right?

#how to sit someone down: a guide

This this this this this THIS THIS THIS!  Like o.k., I get if you want to be all supportive of minority groups.  That’s awesome, o.k.?  Keep doing that.  However, I’ve said it like a thousand times and I’ll keep saying it, the way to support us is NOT BY BASHING ANOTHER GROUP!  Do NOT bash white people, or straight people, or men, or anything.  Anything. ANYTHING!  DO NOT BASH THEM AND DO NOT MAKE ASSUMPTIONS OF THEIR LIVES BEING EASY because they aren’t minorities.    

Now is white privilege and male privilege things like that exist?  Yes.  But that does not give you the right to tell these people, “Pfft your life is soooooo easy,” because you don’t know them personally.  I have a lot of great white friends, straight friends, male friends, skinny friends, they are amazing people I would never, NEVER go to them and say, “You don’t know what it’s like to be black/lesbian/female/plus sized,” just… no.  That is COUNTER-PRODUCTIVE TO YOUR CAUSE!  They are my friends because they love me for me and when someone is racist, or sexist, or homophobic, or fat bashing, or whatever THEY ARE THERE FOR ME.  I am NOT going to be like, “Get out of here you don’t understand because it’ll never happen to you!”  

I mean fuck my partner is a white girl, jesus!  Should I hate her because she “will never understand what it’s like to be a black woman,” I mean… just… stop being supportive by bashing others, that’s not support that’s anger.