brichibi:

These quotes are all things that have been said to me in regards to my body and my race.  It’s not everything that’s ever been said to me, oh no, not even close, but they’ve been said as recently as last month.  

Don’t let the negatives take over, don’t let them weigh you down and dictate who you are.  Don’t let them cover up the things that make you, you.

<3 Brichibi Cosplays

Reblogging because it’s totally relevant for today.  Today we can add the following to that list above: Cow, Hippo, Wonder What to Eat Woman, Wonder Bread Woman, Wonder Blob, Wonder Water Buffalo, Blunder Woman, Fat Slob, Wonder Whale, Wonder Why Woman.  All in one day. This is not including questions like, “I wonder how she got in that costume.”

The message at the bottom is still the same: Don’t let someone else’s hang-ups cover who you really are.  People don’t like a fat, black Wonder Woman?  The amount of fucks I give about that is the fattest form of zero.    

I’ll never get hate blogs or hate in general, really.  I can’t imagine my life being at a point where I feel good tearing someone else down, let alone someone I don’t even know.  Like what goes through someone’s head when they see someone’s picture online?  ”Who is this person? They’re fat!  I should let them know in the most insulting way I can come up with which is actually terribly cliche.”

I think the reason why I always post this stuff and share my responses and feelings to it is because there are way too many people who won’t put themselves out there because of these people.  There are so many people who want to cosplay and just won’t because they’re worried about this random person attacking them, so I figure, “Hey look, this person over here?  Called me a cow.  Know what I did?  Kept cosplaying.  Got some books published.  Went to a bunch of conventions to get my books out there.  Had a blast.”  Because I know what it feels like to get that hate and then sit in your room and wonder if they’re right about you, and no lie those comments do hurt, no one wants to get hate on.  But I don’t know these people, I don’t know why they have issue with me, why they can’t just hit the next button if they don’t like what they see.  And I realized that, damn Bri, these are the SAME kinds of comments you got growing up.  It’s the same shit!  It’s ALWAYS the same shit!  They have nothing to say about my cosplay, but my weight, or the color of my skin, THAT they can preach on for days.  It doesn’t matter how the costume looks, they just want to poke fun at a fat girl.  

And I realized… wow… that’s pretty sad.  

And I realized that this happens to EVERYONE.  It’s not just fat that gets bashed, everything, EVERYTHING does.  I’ve seen amazing cosplayers get cut down because they’re black.  I’ve seen thin cosplayers get cut down because “you’re just doing it for attention.”  We all have insecurities and we all deal with people who are just so ugly on the inside that they feel the need to shoot you a message in an attempt to make you feel like shit.  I mean hell, that Reddit post with me and the other Wonder Woman? Someone called her anorexic because she’s thin!  It’s just not worth stressing over, at least not to the point of stopping what you’re doing.  If you feel bad for hate, that’s fine, just don’t let it KEEP you down.  Keep doing what you do, keep having fun with it, keep enjoying it, you’re opinion of yourself is what matters most  :)

Let’s create a couple of scenarios.

Let’s say I decided to cosplay Catwoman. Someone might tell me, “You’re too fat to cosplay her” or “fat cat.”

All right, fine. Let’s say one of the women I follow, who is skinny, says they want to cosplay Catwoman. Except their black. Someone might tell them, “Catwoman isn’t black” or “Check it out, ghetto Catwoman.”

All right. Fine. Let’s say that another woman I follow, who is skinny, and white, says that they want to cosplay Catwoman. Someone might tell them, “That cosplay is too slutty” or “attention whore.”

This right here is why there’s no point in stressing about such negative comments. Same character in each scenario, only different levels of negativity. This is why, my number one advice, is to smile and cosplay who you want  

So here’s a smile from me to you 

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Bonus scenario: So then you may start to envy the male cosplayers of the world, thinking that they must have it so easy. Then you see a picture of a male cosplayer with a caption like, “He tried, I guess?” Or even see statements like, “Male cosplay is so boring” “Superman really let himself go, huh?” “What’s up with this Wolverine?" 

So, everyone? Smile, on the count of three: 1. 2. 3!

(also special thanks to Nude Carbon Studios for the Tiana pic!)

It’s one of those weeks where everything is going wrong.  But I have to keep trying, you know, to try and make everything work.  

Still… really good pizza would be nice right now.  

Now the basher is saying that I have the frying pan so I can fry chicken real quick and eat it.

Again with these insults that aren’t really insulting, I mean… fried chicken is delicious.  I mean I know that was supposed to be a fat black joke but I’m not gonna lie, fried chicken is great.  I can’t knock fried chicken, I just can’t. Though they are wrong about the pan, this pan is not what I use to fry food, it’s old and burnt out.  I have a special pan in a locked cabinet that needs me to punch in a code to access it.  That’s my frying pan.

Seriously though it’s not even worth responding to this person, it’ll just make them insult whales and chicken and stuff and those things have done nothing wrong.  Oh and chewed gum at some point, that happened too.  But again, gum is great, unless if it loses its flavor too quickly. That’s the worst.