Someone always finds something to poke at, you know? It’s not even worth worrying about because someone is going to find something wrong if they really want to. You can’t win with everyone, which is why it’s best to just win with yourself. You can look quote, unquote, “perfect” on the outside but still feel like shit if you’re not happy with yourself and who you are.
Happy is attractive. Happy is beautiful. Happy is as close to perfect as we’ll ever get.
Positive thoughts for the night time people <3
So in case you missed it (though it’s been on my blog all day) I got some pretty racist/fat bashing remarks about my Princess Peach cosplay, ranging from calling me a whale, to Precious, to using the frying pan to fry chicken, and all sorts of things. It’s been blowing up quite a bit since a bunch of you are apparently amazing individuals who I want to snuggle, because you’ve been reblogging and commenting and all sorts of things.
So in honor of this I made fried chicken, you know, since that’s all us fat black gals eat.
Here’s all sorts of links:
The post with the fried chicken comment and other un-creative cracks at me.
I would post everyone’s responses but there have seriously been an overwhelming amount, so thank you all :)
Edit: Added some cosplay pictures so you can see the costume and such :)
Edit Number Two: My Cosplay Page, I can’t believe I forgot to link it!
This seems to be making rounds again, which is great! Here are some really awesome updates:
1. Here is the xoJane article I got to write about it.
2. This magazine will have the full story in it.
3. More amazing people are speaking up about cosplaying who you want.
<3
rifa:
This would have been more meaningful if it had come from someone besides the straight, white man. You know, like the lady two people over.
Seriously? Seriously, people? Shut the fuck up. Because he is a white straight man making an effort to gather support for equal rights he is unworthy? That his support is nothing? Or that it’s not good enough for him to support equal rights? Get your slick stinky underwear out of your ass crack and stop being so stupid. I’ve heard macklemore get so much shit today for FUCKING SUPPORTING equal rights! He is a straight white man using his privilege in a correct and respectful way and people seem to have a problem with that?! You’re fucking kidding me. So if he just decided to suck someone’s dick the day before, would his support finally mean something?! Man, shut the hell up people. This is support right here, and in the mainstream media.
/end motherfucking rant
reblogging this a million times
do you even understand how much shit macklemore gets because people think he’s gay? do you understand that they kept passing the microphone to her but she didnt want to speak? do you understand that if you’re straight, you can support same sex marriage? because you can. just because he’s straight doesn’t mean his support doesn’t matter. do you get how amazing it is to have a song like this played on the radio? things like this dont hapoen often, and the fact that the same straight goofball who sang “thrift shop” can write something so beautiful like this is amazing. in fact, i think it is fucking amazing that this man is using his speech time to talk about gay rights. he almost forgot to thank his fiancé because he cared about this cause so much. do you know what taylor swift did? fucking insulted her ex. macklemore used his minute and a half (maybe less) of speech time to stand up for what he believe, to stand up for love, to stand up for his family. and you think that just because he’s straight it isn’t valid? that makes you just as close minded as homophobic people in my opinion.
I will never ever not reblog this. Ever.
My opinion too tbh, if you dont personally like his song or him doing this thats alright, but recongize that he’s doing a load of good in the mainstream media while he could be writing songs about blurred lines and bitches on a strict diet of dick or whatever the fuck else mainstream media has going for it.
For the record, my dear followers, if you’re straight, or white, or male, or skinny, or whatever and you want to support me and love me then go right ahead because seriously, that’s amazing, and I’m not going to be like, “Well that would mean more to me if you weren’t white/straight/male/skinny/whatever.”
Actually some of my fondest memories at GameStop are the following:
1. Having two straight white managers who let my partner use my discount because, “You two would be married if you could be married.” So instead of sticking to the rules of “spouses and children” they considered her a spouse and said, “Go for it.” My assistant manager at the time tried to tell her she couldn’t use the discount, we were both like, “Manager said it was o.k.” Because he did. And not every store will let you do that, not every manager will let you do that, as proven by my assistant manager at the time. So thanks for that, straight, white, male managers who cared about my rights.
2. When one of my customers (again, male and straight), went on a rant about how fucking dumb it was that I couldn’t marry who I was with, because we’ve been together for so long. He went on a huge rant about it, because we’ve been together longer than a lot of straight couples who are married, or can get married, or who have been divorced, and it pissed him and his brother off so much when I told them how long we were together. Me and that customer are good friends now, and he cheered with me when Minnesota started to allow gay marriage.
3. The one time I actually said to a straight guy how “that’s gay” can be seen as offensive, and how he actually made an effort to stop saying it, to the point that if he did slip up he would apologize. He did this in front of his teenage son, so his son got to see his dad apologize for saying something that could be seen as offensive and trying to make an effort to change it. Sure beats the hell out of the customer who flat out said “fags” about something, and the ones my manager would try to correct who would just laugh it off.
So yeah. Can we just stop with this attitude of thinking that just because someone is in the majority it means that they aren’t allowed to be supportive? I will always find that bizarre because, I really don’t need to speak to my gay/black/female/plus sized peoples for support, you know? They want support just like I do, so I don’t need to try to make them understand, so when someone outside of this circle agrees with me on something and feels that I should have the same rights… that means the world to me. I mean, can we be happy that there is a song in mainstream that’s talking about our rights in a positive way? And yes, it is amazing that the same guy who made a song like “Thrift Shop” turned around like, “Same Love.” I mean he could’ve just kept going with songs like that, but he took a moment to say, “Look. Love is Love.” Let’s be honest I expected that from Lady Gaga (Born This Way) and Pink (Raise Your Glass) and Katy Perry (Firework), but Macklemore? A rapper who was just rapping about buying cheap clothes… is talking about same sex rights? And by then he was so popular, had millions of fans, and spoke a message like that. That, to me, is impressive, because he sure as hell didn’t have to do that. He could’ve just kept his opinions to himself or posted about it on Twitter, he didn’t have to have an entire song that played across the country.
And before someone goes on to say, “Well that’s just being a decent human being,” considering the fact that he’s getting so much hate for being the decent human being you think he should be, maybe now you see why people don’t speak up about stuff like this, let alone make a song about it. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. You want people to show support, then they do, and the response is, “Fuck him.” No wonder we don’t have more songs like this, if he just stuck with, “I’m gunna pop some tags, I got twenty dollas in ma pocket,” then he wouldn’t be bashed so hard.
And before you say its just for publicity, honestly, he was already popular enough, and even if he wasn’t, there’s an easier way to get publicity besides openly showing support to a minority group, especially when said group is like, “Fuck you you don’t know me, privileged white boy.”
Man I thought I was done ranting! It’s Sunday morning!
But a friend on Facebook posted this to make a great point so I’m going to do the same.
I dislike it when I see things like this (which is the point she was making, too). I dislike it when someone decides to support someone who is plus sized by bashing skinny people. That’s not supportive. Skinny people have done nothing wrong. And furthermore, what kind of example is that to set? We want people to support us, but then we bash the people we want support from in the same breath?
I have nothing against skinny people. At all. I have skinny people in my life and I’m not jealous of them or making snide comments about them, because they love me for me, and I love them for them. But I think this is a thing that happens to show support for someone who is plus sized and it’s not cool. And I will admit that, back in the day, I use to laugh at stuff like this and had this whole, “Skinny girl just needs to eat a sandwich,” mentality, like waaaaaaaaaaaay back in high school, but looking back… how terrible is that? Especially if your friends are skinny, or even if they’re plus sized but smaller than you. My partner is smaller than me. So is my mother.
The point of this whole plus sized acceptance thing is to show that you shouldn’t make fun of us because of our size, NOT that we’re BETTER because of our size, but that size shouldn’t be a factor period in defining who someone is. This whole idea irritates me with all… are these battles? I don’t really want to call them battles. But, you know, when you’re trying to support a group and you decide to do it by saying mean things about another group to do it? Or you decide not to include them? For example: I have heard (on tumblr) people in the GLBT circle bashing the likes of Macklemore and telling him to stop singing about things he doesn’t understand (i.e. his song, “Same Love.”)
First of all: it’s a song SUPPORTING US. AND IT’S IN MAINSTREAM! Do you know how blown my mind was when I heard that song on the radio? Do you realize how amazing that was? A song that hit number one status that has a positive GLBT message? And it wasn’t like I needed to read between the lines, no, it was flat out about us.
Second of all: who is it that we want support from? Straight people, right? So there’s one, right there, being supportive. Why is this a bad thing? For the most part people in the GLBT family are supportive of each other (I said “for the most part” because I know there’s people within groups who bash each other and that happens in every group but I’m not going to dwell on that), we aren’t outside yelling about equality to appease each other, but to show people outside of the group that we should be in this, too. So when someone outside of the group is like, “Yes you’re right,” the correct response should not be, “You’ll never understand so stop speaking for us,” it should be, “Thank you.”
Third of all: he never said that he understands where we’re coming from, he never said, “I can relate because I’m gay too.” He’s not gay. But just because someone isn’t something doesn’t mean that they don’t have feelings about the issue. Otherwise, who are we even talking to in regards to this battle for equality? I mean should we bash Beyonce for tweeting things like being for same sex marriage? Should we be like, “No sweetie you don’t understand, shut up.”
Good people understand that bashing someone or denying their rights because of race/gender/sexuality/size/whatever is wrong, and that everyone deserves the same rights and the same common courtesy. They’re on our side, so let’s not step on their toes. Let’s not be like, “Oh man I love a lady with curves skinny girls are a waste of anyone’s time.” And I’ve heard that in regards to my cosplay, and honestly, your compliment loses meaning when it’s, “You’re beautiful, way better than this person.”
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Except it’s not true whatsoever. Lady Gaga is openly bisexual. So, she does belong in our community, and this guy’s bisexual erasure is fucking awful. Also - if you’re going to dismiss Lady Gaga as a gay icon because you think she’s a “straight white woman” (which is, yet again, false because Lady Gaga is bisexual), Kelly Rowland can be dismissed as well because she’s actually heterosexual.
Not only that, but saying things about how she doesn’t know what it’s like to be bullied because she’s a “white woman” is fucking bullshit. People get bullied all the time for a multitude of reasons, bullying isn’t something that’s exclusive to oppressed groups. Not to mention that women still *ARE* an oppressed group!
And while she may not be a spokesperson in the eyes of this guy, this guy also doesn’t speak for the entire LGBTQ+ community, so he needs to sit down and shut up before acting like his word is law.
White gay males are the largest population in the LGBTQ+ community, they hold the majority - but they don’t get to make the rules. They’re not the only ones oppressed, and they don’t even have it the worst. Try talking to any trans* people, or queer PoCs, or intersex and genderqueer people, or even most bisexual, asexual, or pansexual people. If you want to talk about marginalization and oppression - talk to them. In comparison, gay white males have it easy.
I’m not dismissing the issues that us white gay males deal with, because we still deal with oppression from a multitude of sources, but if we’re going to compare - then white gay males come out ahead in the “most privilege” race.
I’m not saying that there isn’t valid reason for disliking Lady Gaga - but this argument is terrible and doesn’t make a single valid point.
#REBLOGGING FOR THE COMMENTARY#I WANNA PUNCH THIS ASSHOLE IN THE FACE#ALSO NOTICE HOW HE ADDS PENIS AS A REQUIREMENT TO EVERYTHING#EVEN A LESBIAN NEEDS A PENIS APPARENTLY#SHUT THE FUCK UP MAN
FUCKING THANK YOU GOD BLESS YOU I’VE BEEN WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO SAY ALL OF THIS UGHGHHHHHHHHHHH I HATE IT EVERY TIME THIS GIFSET COMES ON MY DASH
reblogging for the commentary. Thank you all for saying what I had been wanting to say but couldn’t find the words for.
I’m going to add to this, because it needs to be said, because I fit in a crap ton of “oppressed” groups. And as much as I absolutely love having the support from other plus sized/LGBTQ/black/female/geeks, you know what absolutely feels amazing?
WHEN PEOPLE IN THE “MAJORITY” ARE ON MY SIDE, TOO!
Events like PRIDE are to show that, hey, we are here, and be happy with who you are and, you know, for people who are the “majority” to accept the fact that we are here. HOW FUCKING BACKWARDS IS IT TO BASH SOMEONE WHO YOU FEEL DOESN’T BELONG IN THE GROUP?! ARE YOU REALLY GOING TO BASH SOMEONE SUPPORTING YOU BECAUSE YOU FEEL LIKE THEY DON’T FIT?! Besides the fact that, as the commenter said, Lady Gaga is bi so she “fits,” but let’s say she were a straight white woman.
THAT’S EVEN BETTER! BECAUSE THAT MEANS SOMEONE OUTSIDE THE GROUP IS ON OUR SIDE! ISN’T THAT WHAT WE WANT?! Don’t we want the ones who are still bellyaching about LGBTQ people to, you know, stop fusing about it and let us be happy? ISN’T THAT WHAT WE WANT?! So, you know, you would WANT THE STRAIGHT WHITE WOMAN TO COME OUT AND SAY, “ACCEPT THEM!” Instead, this guy is busy complaining. Complaining! Are you fucking kidding me?! THE MORE PEOPLE ON MY SIDE THE BETTER! You all bitch and complain about being bullied, what the hell do you think you’re doing right now?!
It’s like… being in a burning building and being picky about who comes to save you. "Sorry, rescuer, you don’t know what it feels like to run away from a fire, go and get a fire fighter who’s been trapped in a burning building.“
Sorry, just… this fucking irritates me beyond belief. "Ugh I wish people would just let me be me,” then someone comes out and says, “Hey, I want you to be you, you’re beautiful the way you are.” The response SHOULD NOT BE, “… no you’re a straight white woman you shouldn’t be saying that because you don’t get it.” Let. People. Support. You. Because. We. Want. Support. Do. NOT. BE. PICKY. ABOUT. WHERE. THAT. SUPPORT. COMES. FROM!
Well, to all the straight white women out there, from a plus sized black geeky woman who’s been dating a woman for 11 years: KEEP SINGING FOR ME, O.K?! I NEED YOUR SUPPORT AND LOVE GETTING IT! This sentiment goes to all of the white/straight/you know what who gives a fuck what your gender/race/sexual preference is, as long as you’re supporting the cause then you’ll get a smile from me.
